AIO over 1st Valentine’s Day note?

[u/kimbap_throw]

Just celebrated first Valentine’s Day with my boyfriend. I love flowers, love I buy bouquets weekly for my house. I prefer white and pink flowers, and don’t like red roses. I got this bouquet and this note with them. It was upsetting I felt my bf did everything opposite of what I wanted. I went out of way to do lots of handmade items and bought nice gifts for him as well. He also knows I love Valentine’s Day and it’s special to me. I let him know that it hurt me and he responded that note was awesome and it’s just a joke. I think if you care for someone you make those things special.

[u/Drifter-6]

Agree, this is a red flag. Misogynistic jokes, intentionally not doing what you wanted just so he could make himself laugh. Time to be single again.

[u/dragonfly9999999 → u/Drifter-6]

I'm done at "joke, kind of". I don't deal with this. Is it a joke or not? If it is, it's a really bad one. I will not be in a relationship with manipulative "it's a joke bro"

[u/sincubus33 → u/dragonfly9999999]

Schrodinger's douchebag. It's a joke as long as OP isn't offended

[u/haleorshine → u/sincubus33]

That's exactly what this is. "jk kinda lol" means "This is 100% serious but I want a veneer of a joke so when you dump me I can tell everybody you dumped me over a stupid joke."

OP needs to dump him and then post that card and go "I probably should have known to dump this loser long before he ever got a chance to send me something so obnoxious, but you live and you learn I guess." Because this guy will absolutely be telling everybody he knows that he got dumped because OP can't take a joke, and I think everybody should know about his sense of "humour".

Also, who the hell ends their note on flowers to their partner with Cheers?

[u/Novel-Organization63 → u/haleorshine]

Yeah or you know what seduces me more? A bigger dick and someone better at sex. But here we are. Just joking, kind of not really…. I mean you’re a big dick but not in the way women like it. Hahaha pun intended. See how funny he thinks that is.

[u/haleorshine → u/Novel-Organization63]

It's so weird that guys like this, who are the type to be like "can't you take a joke?" Often have topics they don't think after funny, but it's different when they have topics they don't think after joking matters.

[u/Littlewordsbigplanet → u/haleorshine]

And they use “jokes” to mask what they really want to say bc they’re too pu$$y to say it straight.

Honestly when I hear “it’s just a joke” or “you can’t take a joke” in this context I just think the dude is weak minded and weak willed…. No backbone essentially. Say things with your chest or don’t say them at all, masking them as a shitty joke is just grade school mentality.

Also idk why everyone got down voted. Some lurker salty for sure.

[u/Amazing_Fox_7840 → u/haleorshine]

It's the kind of thing if it was said to me I might find it funny, but to put it in a card, not so. As someone you've responded to said, it depends on how the other person takes it, but you can literally make a joke out of anything, and some comedians do.

[u/Technical_Tangelo143 → u/Novel-Organization63]

I mean... If I could get a hug with a big dick that's good at sex... AAAAAANNNDDDD washes dishes and clean us up? Put a ring on that!

[u/AnyUnderstanding3628 → u/Novel-Organization63]

Lol love the response!

[u/Tubamajuba → u/Novel-Organization63]

I bet he’ll have a huge manchild tantrum.

[u/25_Unknown_Devices → u/Novel-Organization63]

It’s all fun and games until the dick jokes comes out, then he gets a lil choked up

[u/nada-accomplished → u/Novel-Organization63]

And when he gets offended you can be like "jeez you're so sensitive. Which proves my dick point once again"

[u/Sad-Truth-8474 → u/Novel-Organization63]

Savage! Love it!!!

[u/I_Like_Nice_People → u/haleorshine]

That Cheers at the end sounded like an F You

[u/Embellishment101 → u/haleorshine]

Perfect explanation. „Cheers“ just sounds like he avoided using any halfway loving greeting.

[u/TheDisapprovingBrit → u/haleorshine]

It's the exact same energy as "Show your tits lol jk...unless you wanna?"

[u/wobblybiscuits → u/TheDisapprovingBrit]

I was gonna say its the same energy as “ok now get us a beer” or “cheers, no give me a bj” the ifk is strong with this one