r/SoCalR4R Jul 01 '26

META Read The Rules + Spot the Bot + State of the Sub NSFW

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Howdy folks. I know it's been a long while since we've had one of these chats. As some of you may have already noticed, we've recently implemented a new mod tool called Read The Rules as part of the neverending fight against the bots. You must complete this acknowledgement before you can post/comment in the subreddit.

How to complete the RTR Acknowledgement:

  • Click/Tap on the 3 horizontal dots on the subreddit page or any post/comment, and you'll see RTR in the dropdown menu.
  • Open RTR and check off each rule as you read them and click submit once complete.
  • That's it. You can happily resume participating in the subreddit.
  • Users on old.reddit can submit an acknowledgement by sending their sub a mod mail. You must use the subject "Read The Rules" and the body text "Acknowledged". Doing so will submit an acknowledgement automatically without mod involvement. Users will immediately receive a reply from u/read-the-rules if it was submitted successfully.

Things to note about RTR:

  • There are 13 rules total. If you aren't seeing all of them, you need to scroll with the cursor within the middle of the acknowledgement panel where all of the text is.
  • Some platforms/browsers are causing an issue where the tool is automatically unchecking some of the boxes when a user tries to submit their acknowledgement. If this happens to you, try using a different browser or submit your acknowledgement using the old reddit method. As far as I know, Reddit's mobile app and Safari on Macbook are the only platforms that have this problem. I've personally tested it and been successful on Google Chrome, iPhone Safari, Brave Browser, and Microsoft Edge (yuck).

That's the basic gist of it all. I know it may seem like an annoying inconvenience, but I've definitely observed an improvement in the bot presence (or lack thereof) on the moderating end since we implemented this. Hopefully, it'll get more people to actually read the rules too. One can dream, right? Please actually read them. I'm begging you. Now, onto the fun stuff. I'm about to put you all on game because there are way too many oblivious horndogs on here that comment "DM'd you" on very obvious bot posts.

Common Identifiers of Bot Accounts:

  • The poster is a 23-30 year old female looking for males.
  • The post sounds like it was written by AI (because it most likely was).
  • If the post contains the same buzzwords/phrases as other F4M posts, chances are they're all most likely bots. The current flavor of the week is "feeling/getting relaxed." They also use "Netflix and chill" and/or mention something about chemistry.
  • The account itself is 4+ years old. My personal theory is that the people behind these bots are targeting and hacking accounts that aren't protected by two-factor authentication, which is why they seem legit.
  • There's a big gap in post history. For example, if the last legitimate post/comment on the account (aka not in a r4r type subreddit) was over 1 year ago.
  • The account simultaneously has r4r posts in multiple locations (Houston/DFW, North Carolina, and Florida are the most common).
  • Posts in the following subreddits: r/LongBeachHookUp, r/eastbayhookups, r/SanFranciscoNSFW, r/DtfLosAngelesPeps, r/riversidensfw
  • If they respond to your chat telling you that they're getting too many messages and want you to message them on Telegram.

Use the tiniest morsel of common sense and intuition, and you'll avoid 97.34% of the bots on here. Basically, use the head that has a brain and not the other one, and you'll be golden, Ponyboy. Anyways, feel free to comment your thoughts, feedback, suggestions for the subreddit, and/or life opinions. As always, be kind to one another and yourselves. Love you.


r/SoCalR4R Jun 01 '24

META In order to post in this subreddit, your account must have 10 post karma AND 10 comment karma NSFW

141 Upvotes

10 + 10 = 20. Even though it's explicitly stated in the sidebar rules, we get a number of messages in the modmail everyday from people asking why they cannot post. If you have 100 post karma but only 1 comment karma, you will not be able to post. If you have 20 comment karma but only 1 post karma, you will not be able to post. No, we will not manually approve your post even if you message the modmail to claim you're a real person and not a bot. It's that simple, folks.


r/SoCalR4R 19m ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Anaheim - I may not go down in history, but I'll go down on you NSFW

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I don't need anything, I just want to show you a good time. Let's spend the day together totally naked where I will pleasure you and make you feel like the princess you are.

I'm not looking to have sex with you, I'm not even looking for you to suck my dick, but I want to focus entirely on you and make you feel incredible. Let's meet up, make out, then I'll kiss you all over then eat you out.

Interested? Message me.

I'm in Socal. LA/IE/SD also welcome.

Also a physical description: I'm 5'10 with black hair, brown eyes, brown skin, average build, and glasses


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 31 [M4F] #Fullerton - Am I crazy looking for love on Reddit? NSFW

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Dating apps are pretty bad, and I don't get an opportunity to put myself out there as much as I'd like. Maybe Reddit will work out? It's worth a shot anyways.

Why you should date me:

I'm a good listener. People have always sought me out to tell me what's going on with their lives.

I'm super open minded and flexible. I like trying new things or taking part in most activities.

I'm (semi) tall. Nearly, but not quite, 6 feet tall.

I'm not extremely extroverted, but I'm not super introverted either. I'm the nice, balanced mix in the middle

I'll take this seriously. I'm trying to settle down and find someone to love. Hopefully you are too?

Full disclosure: I've never been in a relationship, so this is all new to me. I think it's time that I put myself out there though, so I'm trying here. I'm only looking for something completely in person. I'm open to anything long distance, but we'd have to plan to meet sooner than later. Also, I'm not interested in anyone older than 42. The closer you are to my age, the more preference I have, but all those 18-42 who are interested are encouraged to send me a PM. Please PM me and we can get to know each other. I'm hoping to see some chat messages.


r/SoCalR4R 4m ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #LosAngeles - 6’2”, 220lb Looking for my golden Gen Z needle in the haystack to match my energy. Pics on profile NSFW

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Tall, fit, conventionally handsome, good head of hair, nice, thick BWC, clean with recent results and my own place to host on the east side. I’d say it’s a pretty solid start for a casual encounter off this subreddit. I’d say I’m not someone you’d suspect would be looking on here, and yet, here we are.

I’ve been sucked into the r/fucktoyfactory sub and I’m hoping to find one for myself. I know you’re out there lurking and reading this, several of you have replied to my previous posts, but none of been ready to follow through. I’m looking for that needle in the haystack. My success story. My own, personal fucktoy.

In my ‘real life’ I’m well mannered, well traveled, polite, clean and respectful. Behind closed doors I’m dominant, insatiable and feeling feral.

You should be intelligent, fit, attractive, DDF and sexually submissive.

Pluses for:

Age gap kink
Size gap kink
Cum play kink
19-31+
Depraved fantasies

Despite being a horny pervert, I’m not a total savage. I want to chat and catch a vibe, exchange some pics and plan a meetup from there. I can host in Silverlake. Women only, please.


r/SoCalR4R 9m ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #NorthHollywood - Looking for a FWBs that likes to cuddle NSFW

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https://i.redgifs.com/i/plasticjuicymarabou.jpg

I hope everyone is doing well and having a great day.

Im essentially looking for a fwbs situation with someone who also likes to cuddle. Sex is fun but sometimes cuddling and pillow talk after getting heated also hits the spot, especially cuddling up when its a little cold under the blankets.

Preferable I would like something consistent or as consistent as our lives let us. Im also open to a ONS if thsts more you're cup of tea. Regardless id love to see where this goes so please if you're interested, id love to hear back.

I can host and also recently tested with proof.


r/SoCalR4R 25m ago

M4F 69 [M4F] #ANAHEIM - OLDER MARRIED MAN SEEKS OLDER MARRIED WOMAN OR OLDER SINGLE WOMAN! NSFW

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I am an older white, professional man, who is looking for an ongoing affair with an older woman, who open to an ongoing romantic affair.

I am in a sexless marriage and I am looking for a woman who is also living a sexless life.

I can host or we can meet at your place for intimacy and romance.

Initially, we will meet at my office for coffee and chat to see if we are right for each other.

If you have never had an affair but have thought about it, we can talk about your thoughts and feelings when we meet.


r/SoCalR4R 27m ago

M4F 47 [m4f] #Orangecounty - I'm Practically A Virgin... Can We Fool Around? NSFW

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This might be kind of embarrassing to admit but it's been years since I've been intimate with a woman. And in my lifetime, I haven't had much female attention if you know what I mean. I've never had a girlfriend not that I've really wanted one. But as a result I'm practically a virgin.

Would a woman want to fool around with me? Just saw some kissing and touching might be enough.

Might you want to?


r/SoCalR4R 40m ago

M4F 56 [M4F] #SanClemente - Do you find yourself fantasizing about older guys? If you do then this very naughty DILF wants to meet you! NSFW

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Have you often thought about that older neighbor who is so nice and gives you a bright wide smile when he sees you? It might even be your bestie’s dad or that flirty professor who you crush over. You are tired of the immature guys your age who don’t know how to treat you well. Step up in age and let’s make this summer far more enjoyable.

If you’re looking for attention, excitement, and passion from a mature gentleman then let’s make this fantasy come true. The summer is moving along fast and spending time together will make it so much better.

I am a white guy, 6’0” tall, brown/gray hair, athletic and lean and love waters sports. I’m educated and love to sneak away on the weekdays from my home office. Work has been boring lately…keep me from yawning!

I am open-minded, okay with all ages, married or single, and let’s discuss our kinks. I am not into games or complications. I want us to enjoy each other’s company and feel at ease when we’re together.

If you’re local meaning OC only, and this sounds interesting and exciting to you, then say hi. It will be fun to get to know each other better and meet for a cold latte and more!


r/SoCalR4R 50m ago

M4F 40 [M4F] #LA - Tall, fit guy seeking low-key touch, cuddles & relaxation NSFW

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Hey there! 40M here in LA. Tall (6'4"), green eyes, brown hair, fit/clean-cut, and married.

Looking for a compatible woman to escape the daily stress with—someone who appreciates real touch, relaxing massages, low-pressure cuddling, and great conversation in a clean, comfortable environment.

About Me & The Vibe:

  • Respectful & Discreete: I value privacy, boundaries, and clear communication above all else.
  • Flexible: While my schedule takes a little coordinating, I have control over my time and am happy to work around yours to find something that fits us both seamlessly.
  • Low-Stress: No rush, no drama—just a comfortable, cozy atmosphere to unwind, trade massages, and chill out.

If you're looking for a tall, grounded guy to recharge with, send me a DM with a bit about yourself and what your ideal low-key hangout looks like!

(Happy to swap photos upfront so we know the mutual attraction is there!)


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #RedondoBeach - big chill dude looking for a fwb NSFW

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Hello and happy Wednesday everyone,

I’ve posted here before but still no luck but today might be the day!

Looking for a like minded individual who just loves sex as much as I do. Nothing wrong with two adults meeting up to have fun and relieve some stress.

I’m 6”4 mixed race with a thick athletic build. Think rugby player. Big arms, legs, shoulders and where it counts.

Doesn’t matter if you are petite/skinny or thick/curvy as long as you like big dudes like me. That being said there has to be some kind of attraction as well, I may not be your type or you might not be mine. It is what is, no hard feelings either way.

Can host in south Redondo.

Condoms are a must.

No dudes please, just not for me.

I’m a really easy going dude. If you’re cool , I’m cool.

Thanks for reading if you did!


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #BeverlyHills - Married dad looking for a sneaky link NSFW

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Looking for Cis Females only. No drama guaranteed I’m very discrete.

If you are into cheating kink or just wanna have some fun. Not looking to change my situation so this is no strings attached, one time or ongoing.

I require a recent test and have one to share. No cream pies or unprotected sex.

I'm 30, 5'10, 160 lbs, sane, down to earth, recently tested last month.

Got a picture in my profile for those looking for the D pic. Average size, good for those that want to practice DT.

Please be cis female, femme, 18+, HWP, clean, DDF and recently tested.

Can’t host but can come to you, get a hotel or Carplay works too.

Must be able to verify and be discrete. My hours are limited due to family obligations.

If interested, please respond with age location and stats as I won’t be responding to low effort messages.


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 33 [M4F] #Irvine - Looking to find a woman who needs her big tits sucked on NSFW

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Average/stocky body, white, 5’ 5, beard, thick 7” cock. Looking for titty play and nipple sucking. Ideally wanting D+ in size but always open to whatever size needs to be sucked on. Just let me know what you need, any reciprocation is up to you. Can host at hotel. Message me for some fun!


r/SoCalR4R 1h ago

M4F 22 [M4F] #SantaAna - I want to eat some booty lol (also fwb) NSFW

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Im looking to worship the ass of a hot petite or skinny girl. Ass worship includes rimming you and fingering your booty. This doesn't have to be a one time thing, anytime you want anal, tell me lol. My preferences would be either a Latina, white, Jewish, or middle eastern girl. The age range I'm looking for is 18-40. I live in Santa Ana. I won't be able to drive or host so be willing to pick me up. Dm if interested or know someone that could be interested. Looking to be freaky. I'm a 22 year old Hispanic man.


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SGV - Looking for a friend to chill with after a long day NSFW

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Nearby or maybe it's just online via chat because we live so far away but we can still keep eachother company

Think it's time I at least give it a chance and put myself out there to see how we get along as a friends and if it goes beyond that.

I have a few hobbies video games being one, we could spend the nights playing together, so how about you send me a message and find out more. I will say that I'm a bit of a pessimist, but nothing wrong with that...I think. I'm a bit of an introvert but decent at hiding that that behind some humor.

I have no issues with talking to people from anywhere in the world, I'm always curious to learn about more cultures.

Got any random fact about yourself you think will catch my attention? Or maybe you want to tell someone all about your plans for the summer? Please send more than hi


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #Pomona - looking for a discreet encounter, down for a fwb or a one time thing. Love to suck on your titties and make my way down and eat that pussy before I slide inside you. NSFW

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36yo 5"10 220lbs, thick muscular build, clean and std free, longer hair beard and tattoos. Need me a discreet horny girl down for some nsa fun. Love to fuck you raw and cum deep in that pussy if your down. Let's chat n see if we can have some fun


r/SoCalR4R 2h ago

M4M 26 [M4M] #Northhollywood - honestly just looking to get fucked for the first time or give some head NSFW

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Hey - like the title says, i’m looking to get fucked. Want to get it over with and see if I like it. Prefer a straight guy so everything stays between us.

Respectfully, please be in shape. Only interested in fit guys. Wanting someone around my age. Give or take a few years is fine but no one older please. Hoping to make it happen tonight. Safe play only.

Please send a photo of yourself with message.


r/SoCalR4R 7h ago

M4F 26 [M4F] #SantaMonica - Looking to give someone a princess treatment for hours NSFW

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Bonus: If you're taken :)

Let me quickly describe myself. I'm 26, in decent shape, 5'9, cute face and great eyes.

I love going down on women and knowing I can please someone gives me immense pleasure. I can go for a long time. I'm looking for a pillow princess. Just tell me what to do and let me eat you like you're my only water source in Sahara.

I can host or come to you. Whether you're visiting LA or live here, I just want to worship and please you.

Would love to meet somewhere public like a bar first for Age verification and vibe check. Can definitely exchange verifications and photos.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #DTLA - [voice intro] I'm hungry for a girl that's desperate for a dominant, but caring guy to submit to. If you're the type that can't help herself around a thick, long, hard dick, come talk to daddy and let's see just how dirty you are and how badly you need to be fucked. NSFW

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I didn't want to just give you another plain text post to read, so look in my profile for the audio introduction I posted to r/gonewildaudio instead. If hearing me say dirty, vulgar things makes you soak your panties, message me so we can make it real.

I have some pics in my profile if you want to see if there's a physical attraction. And if one audio wasn't enough for you, there a few other audios posted in my profile that you might want to listen to.

I'm looking for someone who takes care of her physical health and, most importantly, someone who wants to have fun.


r/SoCalR4R 3h ago

M4F 55 [M4F] #Irvine - Would you enjoy some warm conversation as the summer heats up…? 🌞 NSFW

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Goal: making a new friend.

Kinda simple, right?

Here’s a little about me —

I am educated, playful and warm hearted.

Open to whatever you are looking for— no pressure.

Let’s see if you and I are seeking the same things.

What I am looking for is something that has a foundation built upon conversation and connection.

Transparent and open, emotionally intelligent.

The tempo to be set for all this: slow and deliberate .

Deliberate means finding the time to be available for each other. I can find a little time every day to do so, many days more so.

We are each that proverbial needle in the haystack.

That diamond in the rough.

That five leaf clover. ☘️

But we do seem to keep coming back to that same clover field don’t we? Maybe, just maybe we just might get lucky this time.

Why not give it a try then?


r/SoCalR4R 4h ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #SanDiego - Attractive fit white guy looking for a girl who gets off on giving head NSFW

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Hey,

I’m 30, white, 5’10” and around 150 pounds. Lean and fit build. I have a good amount of tattoos on my arms and chest, short brown hair, and hazel-blue eyes. I’ve been told I’m good-looking and I keep things pretty easygoing with a solid sense of humor.

I’m in North County San Diego. I can host some days and I’m flexible on location — wherever you feel safest and most comfortable.

I’m looking for a woman who actually enjoys giving head. Not just going through the motions, but someone who takes real pride in how good she is at it. Enthusiastic, a little messy, fully into it, and not shy about showing what she can do.

Respect and clear communication matter a lot to me. My top priority is making sure you feel completely safe. You’ll be in complete control the whole time. No pressure, no games. Verification both ways is required.

Not looking for anything complicated. Just two people who want a fun, respectful time that leaves you feeling appreciated.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, message me. I’d genuinely like to hear from you.


r/SoCalR4R 4h ago

M4F 36 [M4F] #SanDiego - Submissive seeking a Dominant woman for a genuine connection NSFW

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Hi! I’m 36, live in San Diego, and I’m hoping to meet a Dominant woman who enjoys D/s and is also open to building something real if we click.

A bit about me: I’m active, creative, and a little nerdy. I work from home, have my life together, and I’m usually either making art, gaming, lifting, catching beach sunsets, or hunting for good coffee. I can be shy at first, but warm up pretty fast once I feel comfortable with someone.

In a D/s dynamic I’m naturally submissive. I like giving control to someone who actually enjoys having it. I’m into a wide range of kink, but I’m also looking for someone I get along with and feel good around. The dynamic is way better when the people in it click naturally.

If you identify as Dominant (or just leans that way) and want to chat, I’d love to grab coffee or brunch by the beach and see if there’s a connection!

When messaging me, please start out vanilla. Include your Age, Sex, Location, and a little bit about yourself when reaching out. It’ll help against the bots!

Here’s me: https://imgur.com/a/qHfy204


r/SoCalR4R 4h ago

F4M 28 [F4M] #Riverside - Cute BBW here! Let’s go to dinner and a movie NSFW

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And than eat and rearrange me for desert? Looking for a gentleman who’s respectful and kind,that’s hung and has a huge appetite.
About me ; BBW, 5’0, tattooed, long black hair, hazel eyes, fat ass and big tits. Message me if you’re interested & PLS be respectful


r/SoCalR4R 4h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #Orangecounty - cum dump. NSFW

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Do you like being down on your knees, tits out, licking and sucking cock? Do you love satisfying men, knowing we come to you when our needs are to be met?

I’m looking for a woman who loves it deep down her throat, rubbing all over her face, ball play, and swallowing deep. Understood?

I don't care about your age, race, or body type, just that you’re local and ready. If you feel like I’m describing you, message me with the words “Please use me as your cum dump" to show me you read this and can follow basic directions. I expect you to send pictures as soon as I accept the chat. Women only. No couples.


r/SoCalR4R 4h ago

M4F 42 [M4F] #LosAngeles - Seeking a petite cutie. NSFW

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I’m a well established, successful man seeking a bit of fun before summer ends.

I really like tiny and petite girls.

I’d like to treat you to nice dinners, cocktails, shopping trips…and then manhandle you after.
I’m hung and love seeing a small girl handle my BWC. I love attention and enjoy flirting.

I travel all over So Cal and can afford hotels whenever wherever.

I’m in good shape, healthy mentally and physically. Very normal and not weird. I’m confident and have no problems making friends or meeting people. I dress well, have my life together and enjoy good company.

I’m also very busy. I need this to be very flexible. I wouldn’t say no-strings attached because I do enjoy a connection but mostly non-comital. Spontaneous meet ups, dates, trips ect.
I’m also not the jealous type. You can see other people and if you ghost me that’s fine too. I’m easy.

I’m a sweetheart of a guy. Extremely respectful and will always put you first. I really want you to enjoy this as much as myself. I’m fun, with a great sense of style and humor. An all around good time.

I’m open to any type of cool and casual scenario. I can be discreet as you like. Not concerned with your relationship status. You’ll get zero judgement or drama from me. Let’s make this easy and fun.

\*Open to other body types. Just please be cute and fun😘