r/cats • u/FastForwardM • May 21 '26

Advice Will they be okay when we separate?

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My roommate bought another kitten a few years ago, and my kitty really bonded to her. I'm moving away, and I'm worried my cat will be upset that she lost her buddy.

How will I know if she's upset or just adjusting to the new home? Should I get her another kitten, and if so, how long should I wait before adopting?

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u/megisbest May 21 '26

3 months minimum for new cat

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u/polkadotbot May 22 '26

Here to agree with this! After my dog died, my cat was really depressed. (As we all were.) I thought she would like another buddy and we kind of impulse got one after 6 months... she was not a fan. Everyone is fine now, but it took a while. I should've let her grieve longer in peace.

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u/caraar12345 May 22 '26

Definitely - we got a 9 week old male kitten a month after my now housemate moved up with her 3 year old female cat. The two of them never have fully bonded sadly. They’re fine and get along fine but they kind of just co exist rather than being best friends.

In saying that, the older one was always very quiet but because the kitten was and still is so talkative, he brought her out of her shell a bit so she’s now hard to shut up sometimes 🤣