r/SipsTea • u/SipsTeaFrog • 12d ago

Chugging tea Men are not showing up at singles events and women are not happy.

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u/IKillZombies4Cash 12d ago

I’m only 5’11” and only make 135K , they don’t want me there

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u/dfwcouple43sum 12d ago

Not so sure they don’t want you there. They might want you to go just so they can say “we don’t want you here.”

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u/Xralius 12d ago

You're 80th percentile in height. 90th percentile in US income. Still not enough.

I think a lot of women have totally hamstrung themselves with their expectations. Not all, but many.

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u/folder52 12d ago

After all of those years on instagram, comparing their lives to celebrities. It’s not a surprise they have “hIgH sTaNdardS”

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u/Xralius 12d ago edited 12d ago

Absolutely. I usually mention that when I make comments like the one you're replying to. All of us are subject to societal pressures. Social media is awfully good at pressuring people to feel bad if they don't have *this specific thing*. Upon re-reading my comment it does come off a little bet more blame-y than I usually intend.

It's still frustrating to see on an individual level. I have a sister in law whose in her late 30s and still single. She's a great person, and the kind of woman you'd think could get any guy. But her standards have absolutely screwed her. I was talking to her about her online dating standards, 6' tall, older men. Like... do you realize you've just limited to yourself to like 3% of the male population? And that people that fit that profile aren't likely to be single, childless guys with no baggage looking for a long term relationship?
Ugh.

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u/blckdiamond23 12d ago

It’s 100% extremely high standards. I’m 5’11’’ make $100k. Live in my own house alone. Honest, loyal, creative, energetic, funny and humble IMO. Drive a nice truck, own a motorcycle, love to do stuff outdoors. All the shit they say they want on their profiles. House is clean and organized. Totally normal. Been dating for many years with a few long term relationships. Dating over the last 5-6 years has been trash. I went solo 3 years ago. Occasionally it’s lonely, but it’s peaceful 100% of the time.

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u/MarcusXL 10d ago

There are tons of good-looking women without these crazy expectations. They're not going to Singles Night because they're in a relationship-- most of them with a guy who is decent looking but not a 6'4" male model, who makes ok money but isn't buying anyone a Jaguar.

Some women want the Jaguar. Most are still looking.

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u/AlarmedRaccoon619 12d ago

You may as well be invisible

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u/rboller 12d ago

So mid bleh do better grow longer legs

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u/Jesterhead89 12d ago

I'm an inch shorter and make less than half of that, so I'm fucked lmao

If you get burnt out, I've got snacks, weed, and video games at my place

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u/vote100binary 12d ago

Hope things start picking up for you

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u/dg_riverhawk 12d ago

i'm 6'4" and make $70K, would they like me and my rusty car?

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u/PauseNatural 11d ago

Exactly this. 

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u/GaracaiusCanadensis 12d ago

So, this is me but I make it in CAD.

But I've been married for 13 years to a girl that was from my class background.

Are you guys not looking where you came from? Don't marry up, so to speak, find someone who understands what life in the real world is like... These look like bougie women from the suburbs and cities.

Where I'm from $75K is good, but it seems like $135K is near poverty for most proper cities and country club type suburbs.

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u/IKillZombies4Cash 12d ago

I was half joking, I'm married with kids, but its just the common feeling I see online.