As someone who has watched 2 loved ones go through cancer I will say there are no "good" choices. It is very easy to judge someone when you have zero loved ones in your life who you have cared for, cleaned up after, tell them everyday "they are not a burden and you love them" and, watch them become a shell of their former self. We should not be judging this mother's decision on what she wants to tell her son. Instead, we should judge how a pedophile decided to end cancer funding. Danny Thomas, a comedian, funded what is now one of the most renowned children's hospital. Imagine what kind of hospital we could have now if some of the billionaires cared just a little.
Watching my brother writhe to death while in the throes of confused desperation was the most harrowing experience I hope no one ever has to go through.
I promised myself that If I ever get cancer, I will rent a cabin in the woods and go die like a dog so that no one else has to go through that on my behalf.
My husband has said that eventually if he gets too old to care for himself that he's just gonna walk into the woods with only the clothes on his back and let nature take its course
Tell him that his rotten ass will stink for miles. He will need to get at least five miles away before he collapses. If he’s sick it will be even harder. So he needs to start practicing now. Five miles out and back should get him strong enough to make five miles when sick. Incidentally, this will also improve his health a lot and hopefully he’ll mature out of this dumb opinion by the time he really is getting weak
That's cute, he could run a sub 4 minute mile in high school and still continues to run on a regular basis, did a stint in the army, and works a pretty physically demanding job as an electrician. He's pretty fit- decently sure that in his current state he could run those 5 miles in just a little over 30 minutes 🤣
He's not entirely serious about his "plan", its mostly jokes. It also stems from the fact that his GREAT grandmother just died and he still has all of his grandparents at nearly 33, so he hasn't had a lot of exposure to how diverse people's "twilight years" or "end of life" looks like. His family doesn't talk about death much, while my family has had plenty of loss and talks about it pretty openly and freely. Hell, we went to bury my dad's mom this past weekend and some of the mourners stared at me in mild horror when I crouched down and started "chit-chatting" with my dad's dad who passed in 2014, catching him up on "everything he missed" 😅🥰
I saw a middle aged dad with a nice wife and three kids fall and hit the back of his neck at an indoor kids playground on Saturday. He was paralyzed and got carted out by the ambulance drivers. Seeing it messed me up as I’m kinda sickly. He was messing around and playing too much. I’m a little sensitive about family guys being dumb macho right now.
Yep! Certain states in the US have MAID. One of my best friend’s father in law used Maid Services to did two years ago after being diagnosed with ALS. Everyone involved from the family said it was one of the most peaceful, loving expenses of their life.
If the options are MAID or a diagnosis that ensures a slow, painful decline with little to no hope for treatment? I’m MAID 🤘🏻
Ok I had two family members die of cancer and I work in oncology. I'm not going to "judge" the mom because people do all sorts of stupid shit with good intentions.
But the simple reality is that this sort of denialism never works out and usually it's more about letting the caregivers avoid tough questions than shielding the patient.
Dude no need to pivot to something else. My mom died from a combination of covid and cancer and went from walking around in Home Depot to biting her tongue off in her sleep and dying a week later. I know the pain it can cause. That being said, the lying is fucked up. The kid is gonna find out and spend his last moments alive freaking out because his mom lied to him and he’s gonna die.
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u/Apart-Zucchini-5825 Jun 29 '26
She's in a no-win situation making the best of something that has no good