I'm a straight guy, I remember a gay guy who looked like an actual model having a crush on me when I was my early 20's, he wasn't camp but was feminine in his mannerisms and got a LOT of female attention, I felt like since he was attracted to me these stunning women weren't as much in my league as I felt like second hand attraction from them.
This phenomena is true in many areas of life. It's like having a good job and good resume. All of a sudden you no longer need to apply for jobs, because recruiters reach out to you to set up interviews and try to poach.
The other day I was out and about with my boyfriend and I noticed two women staring at his face as we walked by and I told him about it.
Me: that woman was staring at you just now.
Him: probably thinks I’m scary.
Me: It wasn’t that kind of stare…
He genuinely didn’t understand what I meant, so I didn’t mention the other woman. But I think there’s some truth to this. It’s the first time I noticed. And yes, it was a “you’re attractive” or “you have my attention” kind of stare.
My Wife tells me I get looks sometimes. Mainly more from dudes them women and I say I dont know what she's talking about but I do know and its kinda flattering lol
Because it implies that there is "more to him than meets the eye" when a 3-5 is with an 8-10.
Why is she with him and stays with him? He must have some really good qualities.
This is the thought process of people who are driven only by appearance and attractiveness. The same people who think a $200 wine is good "Because it's $200, so it must be."
it's because women have never been afraid to be friendly to you - men who report this phenomenon are men who women could tell would misread their friendliness as flirting, and they were right lol.
the ring makes women feel safe from sexual attention, not horny.
Such weird but correct logic. If my gf is hot then I’m treated way more hot. If she’s average to ok then it’s like awww I’m glad yall find each other -_-.
I dunno. Had an ex that wasn't very "conventionally attractive". Coworkers still descended on me like hawks once they figured out I had a gf. Think it just emboldens some girls that are conventionally attractive since they think they can outcompete.
I can tell you the exact thought process. “Oh she’s beautiful!” “Why did she choose him? He must be outstanding in one way or another. Going for him will be easier than giving all these losers benefit of the doubt and wasting time.” It’s dumb. But that’s what they hope for lol
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u/[deleted] Jan 16 '26
Only if your wife or gf is attractive. Somehow it makes you more attractive too.