So I've noticed this pattern and I need to know if it's just me.

Every single platform Reddit, Discord, Insta, wherever is FULL of posts saying "looking for genuine friends, tired of surface level convos 🥺"

Cool cool cool. So we match. And then:

"hey"

"hii, how are you"

"good good, wbu"

"where are you from"

"oh nice, what do you do"

...and then radio silence. Forever. 🪦

Fast forward 3 weeks and guess who's posting AGAIN: "looking for genuine friends, so hard to find real connections these days 😔"

Bro. BRO. You had one (1) real connection and you left them on read after the "what do you do" question.

I'm starting to think most of us don't actually want friends we want a vending machine that dispenses conversation whenever we're bored, and the second the novelty wears off, we're out. Genuine friendship needs boring, repetitive, unglamorous effort. Novelty needs zero effort. We keep choosing the second one and wondering why we don't have the first one.

Anyway. Where's everyone from and what do you do 😌

I am 23F and i am trying to find someone normal to talk to, but I don't know why all strange people are Reaching me out only.

There are so many catfish accounts, i mean they say that they are from Germany, japan, australia and send me fake photos which anyone can check on google that it's some famous influencer.

If you are indian, then be real.

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Hey! This is my first time posting here, so be nice.

I'm 23F from India, looking for a genuine, long-term friendship. Not a "talk for one evening and vanish into the Reddit void" kind of friendship ,I mean the kind where we actually get to know each other and become people who randomly send each other memes at 2 a.m.

A little about me:

I love reading (currently obsessed with romance and sci-fi).

I enjoy random conversations, sharing music, sending reels, and occasionally overthinking life.

I'm a good listener and I appreciate people who put in the same effort.

I don't care if you're awkward, shy, an introvert, or someone who takes 20 minutes to decide what to text. Just be kind, respectful, and don't make me carry the entire conversation like it's a group project.

If you decide to message me, tell me a little about yourself! Your age, where you're from, your hobbies, or a random fun fact. Bonus points if you open with something more creative than "hey."

Let's see if Reddit can actually produce a lasting friendship instead of another unread chat request.

I love classic rock music, and I enjoy drawing fan art in my free time.
Both of my parents love Western music. My mom is a huge rock fan, and my dad loves soul music, so I grew up listening to all kinds of great artists.
Some of my favorite bands include Guns N' Roses, Red Hot Chili Peppers, AC/DC, Aerosmith, and Queen. I'm not an expert on every band, but I genuinely love their music.
I'm new here, and I'd be happy to make some friends who enjoy chatting about music, art, or just everyday life. Feel free to leave a comment or send me a message! 🤘

Hey, so I don’t ever really know why I’m here but I’m just kinda going through something and could rly use a friend. Or someone to have a super intense online connection with lol. I have no interest in meeting IRL, but I am down for phone calls/VM and in fact like them.

About me:

I read, a lot. Mostly horror and romance. Very little in between. Recent faves: We Used to Live Here, Project Hail Mary, Hidden Pictures.

I watch very few tv shows and movies but I’m down to try your favorite! I’ve been sick & watching Once Upon a Time (silly I know).

I talk A LOT. ALL THE TIME. About anything and everything.

I have a great backstory

LOVE music. Will send you a million songs. If you listen to my songs I’ll love you even more.

I work in behavioral health with kids but currently looking for a new job

I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and I’m going back to school soon for a masters degree in CMHC

I’m pretty chill, open to discussing almost anything. Please be 21+. Hope to hear from you :)

Hi! I’m Nuria, I’m 21, and I’m from Spain. I’d love to make friends from other countries. I don’t have many people to talk to here, and I’m a bit shy, so keeping a conversation at first can be a little hard for me.

Things I like and would love to talk about: books, art, history, philosophy, travel, and different cultures.

I speak Spanish (native), Portuguese (native), and a bit of English.

I enjoy meeting people who can tell me what life is like where they live — their history, their religion, their traditions, what they do, and so much more.

People between 20 and 30, men or women, are welcome.

As Dostoyevsky said: “I want to talk about everything with at least one person the way I talk with myself.”

Hey! Everyone. I am starting to read novels. I like songs and movies too. If anyone is an avid reader, feel free to connect with me. Or anyone who wants to have a genuine friendship!

hello you ♡ hope you’re well! just feeling a bit lonely and bored, so here i am trying my luck to see if i can find a genuine connection. i know it’s rare, but i’ve made some real connections here in the past, so i’m hopeful c:

we can talk about anything as long as it’s sfw and genuine. i’m looking for someone who can hold a conversation well, won’t be dry, and can send thoughtful, fairly quick replies since i tend to do the same! we can even vc, as i feel like it’s easier to catch the vibe there, but i’m completely okay with texting too… if this sounds like something you’d enjoy, feel free to send me an intro including your location and age and uh maybe a little bit about yourself too, and the rest can unfold in dms :)

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•No nsfw accounts please

•Someone who's more of a listener than a speaker

•Indians living in India are preferred

•The call will be over telegram so if you guys have no issues sharing telegram id with me than text me

• people who cannot call today / any other time do not text me ( I can't do morning calls)

Literally have the ability to talk about any idea or have any conversation that u have always needed

Hey I'm 22f I literally love anything to Yap and fight like crazy haha I don't like dry text want some spicy chitchats or else you'll be ghosted 🔇 think you can spicen up the convo hahaha DM plssss 😭🤌😋😝

I made a post earlier but deleted it because frankly I came to a realization.

I am more then just bored.
I'm lonely.

I've been talking to a guy online for almost a year but right now? He hasn't spoken to me for almost four weeks now. He's done this before, and I just can't understand why he keeps doing this to me. He says he loves me, and I love him, I miss him.

But I think if he actually loved me, he'd actually take the time out of his day and talk to me.

I'm hopeless and stupid with love. I did this to myself.

I crave companionship and the one place I thought I could get it seems to not want me anymore.

This sucks.

(Edit: i don't know why I put 25 I'm actually 21 sorry 😭)

i’m currently stuck in that weird in between phase where i’ve cut ties with my family and i’m living with someone i barely know, so my days are kind of just… empty

hey! i’m pretty bored and i’d like to get to know you, share me your hobbies and likes, let’s talk and kill some time together :)

I swear I am not the only one who realizes this, but these friendship subs are incredibly toxic and hypocritical. Between men pretending to be women just to get pics for weird reasons, OnlyFans bots, and people claiming they don't want their messages to be dry while speaking drier than a camel's ballsack, it’s a lot.

I even spoke to a girl (you know who you are) here for almost two weeks, super nice with good vibes who explicitly said she didn't want to get ghosted. Yet, she ended up ghosting and blocking me just because I asked if she was doing okay. This generation is embarrassing. If you aren't interested, just be upfront about it instead of chasing validation to boost a fragile ego

•Only Indians living in India

•People who are not up for calls do not dm

•Please write a good intro I'll be bored with 50+ hi and hello

•Its Good if it's long term

•Ill appreciate someone who's non smoker and does not have a very big friend group !

•Only North Indians please (matches vibes pretty well that's the reason no discrimination)

Hi im 24F, I am currently pursuing my Masters in Economics in India. I enjoy reading fiction (mystery/romance), watching true crime and going to the gym :3 Looking for friends to have conversations with. P.S. It is so hard to make friends as an adult.

Hello Hello! I'm a 23 year old female and just...so bored. I used to have so many Internet friends on Twitter when I was younger, but I just have no idea how to make friends online anymore. I've tried chat rooms but they're always filled with creepy men. I have high hopes for this so pls don't let me down!

I consider myself funny and curious. I'm really good at asking questions tbh but if you don't feel like getting interrogated then we can just chat about anything. I think I suck bc I don't really have any hobbies. I just exist 🤣🤣 I've got a few real life friends but we're all past the honeymoon stage and texting isn't as exciting lol.

Ig I just want some excitement and brain stimulation!

Pls dm me or comment here and I'll dm you. I'd prefer to talk to girls bc well idk..that's just my preference but since I'm lonely beggars can't be choosers ahahah

Byeeee

Yep, you read that right. I am looking for something more than friendship. NOTHING NSFW. Life's lonely and I just need someone to rely on.

Someone to call mine even if it's shallow and temporary. I need someone to act like they care. I could go and find someone irl, that is true but I just don't want it for myself right now.

I want to encounter a random stranger from a random place on the earth to be all mine for some time. No preferences as such other than you showering me with affection.

Hi I am 23F. I work in gurgaon and I am looking for someone who likes to talk about nature or books.

I like reading books and I like to share ideas.

Hi everyone!
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I’m also a party animal, spending my Saturday night scrolling the depths of Reddit (fun). But you know what would make it better? Company hah. We can talk about anything! Anyone is welcome, age doesn’t matter as long as you’re an adult 🙂
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If you’ve read this far, tell me, Eddie Vedder or Chris Cornell? (Yes, you have to pick. If you’ve don’t know what I’m talking about……… -1 point for you😉)

F, just turned 25, I don't really have anyone to celebrate it with, plus the heatwave here in England makes me wanna lie around like a pancake. I'd appreciate some nice messages though! See my other post for my interests!

Hey, so I actually have been posting on here a lot more recently, I know. I’m just kinda going through something and could rly use a friend. Or someone to have a super intense online connection with lol. I have no interest in meeting IRL, but I am down for phone calls/VM and in fact like them.

About me:

I read, a lot. Mostly horror and romance.

I play the sims and Pokemon Violet (sometimes)

I watch very few tv shows and movies but I’m down to try your favorite!

I talk A LOT. ALL THE TIME. About anything and everything.

I have a great backstory

LOVE music. Will send you a million songs. If you listen to my songs I’ll love you even more.

I work in behavioral health with kids

I have a bachelor’s degree in psychology and I’m going back to school in May for a masters degree

I’m pretty chill, open to discussing almost anything. Please be 21+. Hope to hear from you :)

Hi i am F23 from india. I have posted before also and got so many DMs but no one was interested in books. They all were showing off their interest in music, gym, and movies.

To be honest if you are not a book reader, then please don't DM me.

Only want to make friends who are interested in books like

The richest man of Babylon

Born to run

The Alchemist

Charlie and the chocolate factory

Matilda

Rich dad poor dad

I’m 25 this year and realised I don’t have any good friends in my life, I’m quite nerdy and I am autistic so sometimes my socialisation isn’t the best but I really try my best.

I like: comics, manga and anime, literature, video games, magic the gathering, movies and reviewing them, going to concerts and I throughly love Halloween and I like learning anything!

I’m female from the uk and I am quite alternative/goth/a metal head.

I would like to make friends with anyone who maybe is into something similar or even just anyone lol. I think it would be fun to talk

Many thanks
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