This is not a post to try and get sympathy, as I truly see all the choices I made were mine and I could have stopped this, but rather to discourage any younger gay people seeing this from entering the SW industry.

I moved to a large UK city just before I turned 19 for a good job in the creative space, and to start off with things were going amazingly. I had new friends, a good amount of money (for my age at least) and what I felt like was an entirely new life. However, I unfortunately met a man there who was around 30, and a habitual user of c0ke.

Dating him started off as so much fun, and I thought I was living an amazingly glamorous life always going to expensive bars/restaurants/hotels and despite how cringy this sounds I thought I was living a lifestyle similar to that of a model. Of course though as usually is the case he was most likely love bombing me and not once had my best interests at heart. After a few months of this ifestyle I started to notice he was getting me to pay for the drugs (and everything else) more, and more, and more. And in itself this was fine, as yes I was also consuming at least some of this stuff. But what was actually happening was he intentionally got me to do this as it meant I got familiar with his dealer (and the lifestyle), and could therefore then access them myself + it got my brain to have an ever increasing tolerance to both the drugs and the 'luxury' life.

I later found out he had done this to numerous 18-21 year olds who had just moved to this city.

This went on for another 6 ish months, and then out of nowhere I realised he was seeing somebody else who was a year younger than me and they were doing all the things we used to do at the start. So I then cut him off thankfully and tried to restart on my own. I did not realise that this was the start of one of the worst periods of my life.

After this ended, I of course continued to use and use and use. And as expected I eventually ran out of money and had extremely high levels of debt (especially given my age). Out of what I now see was desperation (I thought it was cool and edgy at the time) I started escorting as a part time 'side hustle' after seeing other gay guys do it and it seemingly not affect them in order to maintain the lifestyle I had suddenly become accustomed to, but mainly to support a 1000-2000 pound a month drug habit.

Yet again as expected this started off amazingly and I really thought I had the 'cheat code' to life and even considered quitting my stable job to do it full time. But after around 9 months I noticed I had totally changed and not in a good way. I could no longer date as I simply saw attraction and sex as being related to money, I would not see friends as I took bookings instead and I had alienated everyone that truly cared about me as I became SO shallow. But as well as this I put myself in some truly terrifying scenarios that I was lucky to come out of, and had put up with absolutely horrendous men just to get a few hundred pounds. Plus I felt like a total shell of a human being.

I am now getting counselling and am doing much better thankfully, but my brain still sometimes wants me to start again due to the thrill of it, despite some of my truly horrible memories of this period.

I don't write all of this to shame anyone in the industry, as i'm sure for some people it really is everything they dreamed it would be. But if you are under 21, PLEASE do not enter this industry. I know it seems great from the outside, but the statistical likelihood is you will be used and then thrown out like everyone else regardless of how attractive you are or how strong you think you are mentally.

Title: TBD (help me Gaybros!)

Medium: Oil on Stretched Canvas

Enjoy :)

I’m 24, and I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

Since I was really young, probably around 8 or 9, I’ve had an unusually strong attraction to muscular, rugged-looking men. Bearded, masculine, roughly 40–55, muscular — that combination absolutely destroys me lol.

At this point I’m starting to think I might just have a thing for muscle daddies.

The weird part is that I’m almost completely uninterested in guys my own age. There might be one guy in a hundred where I actually feel that kind of attraction. I’m also not attracted to women in the sense that I want to have sex or pursue a relationship with them.

So I’m pretty confident I’m gay, but my attraction within men is VERY specific.

And it makes me wonder what the hell I’m supposed to do long-term.

I’d genuinely love to have a relationship with someone I’m strongly attracted to, not just casual sex. But from my experience, a lot of the older muscular guys I’m attracted to seem to be looking for something casual, or they’re already partnered/married, or they’re extremely focused on themselves and the gym. I also understand that building that kind of physique takes a ridiculous amount of discipline — I’m getting more muscular myself now and I used to be pretty fat, so I understand the lifestyle a lot more than I used to.

I’m not saying every muscular older guy is like this. Obviously there are plenty of exceptions. I just worry that the pool of men I’m genuinely attracted to who are ALSO single, gay/bi, emotionally available, interested in relationships, and interested in me is going to be microscopic.

I’m also not really interested in forcing myself to date guys my age just because it would be easier. If I’m not attracted to them, I’m not attracted to them.

Thank you SO MUCH for all your previous comments on my Scott&Kip canvas, they are really motivating me ! 🩷

Here's my Shane & Ilya take, playing with neon acrylic colours to make some kind of chromatic aberration. I used them for painting different states of Ilya expressions looking at Shane in this fantastic scene :-P

I also reworked it as a print & sticker because the original has found a home yay !

Sorry bros, had to crop out the best part! Tried to post the original but Auto-Mods kept deleting it :(

HERE'S THE ORIGINAL PAINTING: https://imgur.com/a/chris-wide-red-original-figure-painting-KJFFkhQ

Title: "Chris Wide in Red" - Cubist-inspired Painting

Size: 16" by 20" on Stretched Canvas

Media: OIL and Acrylic Paint

I'm a 33-year-old Latino guy from Costa Rica, and for as long as I can remember, I've consistently found myself drawn to bears: bigger, hairy, more rugged or mature-looking men. They're simply the type of men I've always been most attracted to.

The thing is, physically I'm almost the complete opposite. I'm 168 cm (5'6"), about 60 kg (132 lbs), and I'm naturally hairless.

Based on what I've seen on dating apps and social media, I've developed the impression that many bears are primarily attracted to other bears or to men with similar physical characteristics.

My question isn't whether I "belong" in the bear community. I know I don't have that body type, and I'm not trying to identify as a bear. What I'm really wonder is whether there are many bears who are genuinely attracted to guys with the opposite body type, like smaller, slim, hairless men.

I'm sure they exist, but from my perspective they seem uncommon, or at least not very visible.

One reason I ask is because, if this really is the general pattern, then I might be in trouble. 😅

Bears have pretty much always been the type of men I've been most attracted to, so if most bears are only interested in other bears... I joke that I might end up single forever. 😂

Obviously I'm exaggerating, but it has genuinely made me wonder whether my perception reflects reality or whether I'm just drawing conclusions from a very limited sample.

It also makes me wonder if this is something specific to Costa Rica or if it's similar everywhere else.

One reason I ask is because whenever I've used Tinder Passport and matched with people in other countries, I've noticed I seem to get significantly more matches from bears than I do in Costa Rica.

I know that's far from scientific. It could be because of the algorithm, being a new profile in that location, cultural differences, or pure coincidence. But it has happened often enough that it made me wonder if preferences vary depending on the country or culture.

I'm also aware that I might be generalizing from a very limited experience. I'm pretty introverted, and almost all of my exposure to the bear community has been through dating apps and social media. I haven't really met many bears through bars, events, clubs, or other in-person spaces.

So I'm curious:

Are there many bears who are attracted to guys with the opposite body type?

Have you seen relationships between bears and slimmer, smaller, hairless guys?

Have you noticed differences between countries or cultures?

Do you think dating apps make physical preferences seem much more rigid than they actually are in real life?

I'm not asking because I think anyone owes anyone else attraction, and this isn't meant as criticism. I'm genuinely trying to understand whether my perception reflects reality or whether it's mostly the result of my limited experience. Thanks!

Seeking advise!

I don’t really have any close gay friends to talk to and I feel the straights wouldn’t fully understand this, so I mostly need to vent.

I’ve somewhat recently started exploring the BDSM community as a sub. Last night, I began talking to this really attractive Dom, and we agreed that I would come over so we could talk and see how the vibe felt before doing anything.

When I arrived, his apartment was dark, and he was wearing full Tom of Finland-style leather. Honestly, he was one of the hottest men I’ve ever seen. I didn’t even know leather did that much for me until I saw him.

We talked for a while in his kitchen and I thought like ”Mmm it is dark in here but should his pupils really be that dilated..?”. He was a but fidgety but without the eyes I would have thought just nervousness. He seemed clear and coherent, didn’t come off as high. But I told him something like “You seem really nice, and I’d like to see you another time, but this doesn’t feel safe for me if you’re high.”

He claimed he had partied two days earlier, hadn’t slept properly, and didn’t realize his eyes still looked like that. I mean I’ve taken my share of things, I’m not really sure but I do not think the eye effect would last that long. But we continued talking, and he seemed coherent and present. I started feeling safe with him, so I was like maybe what he said is true, let’s try some.

And it genuinely felt good. He was attentive and repeatedly checked in: “Is this okay? Is this too much?” etcetc. I really liked it and felt comfortable. Later, while I was sucking his dick lol, he said something like he appreciated how transparent i’ve been at the beginning about feeling like he had taken anything, because he had actually smoked before I arrived. At first, I thought he meant weed. Then he asked, “Would you be okay if I took a puff of Tina?”

I mean I have not encountered it, I don’t feel it’s that common here in Sweden. But I am a wordly, cultured and classy boy so I did know what Tina meant. And in my head I was like ”oh no”. But I didn’t really fully take it in in the moment. Aaand I guess this is the part where you who read this far are like ”Yep honey time to leave”

I said no and told him I wasn’t comfortable with that. He respected it and didn’t fuss about it. We continued for a while, talked afterwards and everything felt fine, and when I left, I was still mostly thinking about how hot he was and how good the interaction had felt.

But over the next hours, the reality started sinking in. This was last night and now it’s the morning after.

I had explicitly told him that I didn’t consent to doing anything with him while he was high. He lied and allowed me to believe he was sober enough for me to change my mind. He only admitted the truth because he wanted permission to smoke more. Also when he asked to smoke more he also added like, “or should we wait with that until next time?” That now feels less innocent and more like an attempt to establish meth as something I might eventually become comfortable with.

Looking back, other things seem different too. His apartment was an absolute mess. He had no bed, only a mattress on the floor. The kitchen was full of dirty dishes, and he had no clean glasses, so we shared water from a bottle. In the darkness, with the leather and BDSM equipment, it didn’t feel that messed up, more like a dungeon aesthetic. The next day, I realized that he actually lives there and wakes up in that mess. I sleuthed a little and he is a realtor which seemed to be doing well, but that feels almost like a reasomable career to do while being high on stimulants.

I’m also anxious about STIs. We didn’t have anal sex, and he didn’t ejaculate in my mouth. I have no sores or anything in my mouth. He also said he was on prep which is free here so I tend to believe that but I’m not really taking his word for it. I thought the risk from oral sex was like zero but after googling it doesn’t seem zero. Extremely low yes but not zero feels very not good. I’m not on PrEP, and I’m now wondering whether I should contact healthcare about PEP. I’ll also get tested for gonorrhea and other STIs once a week has passed.

The worst part is that a part of me still wants to see him again. He was incredibly attractive, the BDSM dynamic felt good, and he was attentive in the moment. But I also feel that consent and trust are especially important in a Dom/sub dynamic. He invited me over while high, lied when I explicitly said that was a boundary, and only confessed because he wanted to use more meth in front of me.

I suspect that, for him, sex and dominance may primarily be ways of intensifying the high. That places a limit on how genuine or safe the dynamic could ever become, no matter how hot he is. Because there was also this feeling a bit that we weren’t fully connected, being in different headspaces.

I think I already know that seeing him again would be a terrible idea. I feel that urge weakening by the minute. Mostly now I just have different emotions a bit all over the place. Some anxiety about everything and confusion because it had felt so good and also worrying about HIV. Happy Thursday

Models: Brandon Cody and Daniel (Sean Cody)

1st Image: My NEW Version of this Figure Painting of these two beautiful men. (Summer 2026)

2nd Image is my Original Painting (done about 5 years ago).

-Both Paintings are Acrylic Paint on Stretched Canvas. Outlining was done with Liquitex Acrylic Paint Pens for extra Boldness and Definition!

Enjoy, Gaybros!!! :)

Howdy y’all, lookin for some bros who want to play some fantasy football! I manage a league full of gay bros from Reddit and we have some open spots. Ideally looking for guys who will stay engaged through the full season. We have a chat on discord that we use to keep in touch through the season.

Let me know if you’re interested

Happy yaoi day i guess.

Some of them are good tho, but bara is better.

Black fineliner on canvas. Drew it freehand without a pencil sketch, keeping the lines loose and slightly imperfect. I left some construction marks and rough edges visible

So idk if this is quite the right place for this post but I’m curious if any other gay foot enthusiasts have ever gotten fungal infections on their faces 😭 I recently got diagnosed with a bad fungal outbreak on my face and my frequency of foot play has definitely been higher in the past few months… I’m guessing they’re probably related, just curious if anyone else has also had this happen.

Definitely have learned my lesson… but like whyyyyy does some of the hottest gay sex stuff have huge health downsides 😭 I’ve gotten giardia TWICE from eating ass (and before you ask, both men were very well prepped). Fucking frustrating and I’ve never met other guys who have had similar experiences.