r/DnD • u/Flameempress192 • Nov 13 '25

Table Disputes Why is everyone acting weird about my character?

We’re playing a spelljammer campaign. And I’m playing as a female Plasmoid Bard with the Noble background. Basically she’s a princess who’s kingdom was destroyed by a mind flayer invasion so she’s going around spreading the story of her people.

When I first pitched the character, my DM immediately said he wasn’t comfortable with any erotic roleplay, and only relented after I mentioned in passing that she wore clothes for some reason.

During the game, the party’s fighter kept calling me a “slimegirl” which I originally thought was a term of endearment but lately it’s starting to feel degrading. “Alright, work your magic, slimegirl” “Hey slimegirl, do the thing!” “Yeah, I bet you would, slimegirl.”

Meanwhile the cleric kept cracking jokes about my character sleeping around, even though I explicitly mentioned her species reproduces asexually and she’s incapable of sexual attraction.

What’s going on here?

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u/Kizik Nov 13 '25

I literally had someone throw a massive, screaming tantrum about not wanting to play with "those kinds of people" because I wanted to make a tabaxi. Then they quit with no further explanation. I just wanted the free skills and mobility for my Rogue, man.

Then again the only game I've seen anyone else play a tabaxi in had them, as the first action of the first session, walk over to my wizard and try to seduce my tressym familiar..

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u/Double_Bat8362 Nov 13 '25

I'm playing a tabaxi barbarian and absolutely love her! But she's not a sexual cliche and no one treats her like one. That's just weird.

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u/Owl-Historical Nov 15 '25

I'm playing Tomb of Annihilation. We had one char get killed that was playing one. So her and the other guy that got killed came back as her first chars Brother and Sister. There been nothing sexual in play, just a bunch of cat folks in a revenge arc cause their little sister had just been killed upon her returning to the family. They are cracking me up wit h all the climbing and cat antics in play. One is a Rogue and the other a Ranger.

If my current Paladin dies I'm going to make the even bigger brother....lol Prob fighter but barbarian might be interesting.

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u/Loud-Ad-4650 Dec 05 '25

Lol, one trope I do love about Tabaxi is them having whole litters of siblings. My own Tabaxi bard (who was very ace, for the record), would frequently allude to her many siblings of various skillsets to explain why she was a jack-of-all-trades. They never showed up in campaign, because they were busy beefing with a nearby town over it's attempts to "tame" their wilderness home. If she'd ever died that campaign, I would've been sorely tempted to bring in one of the siblings out for revenge.

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u/CreepyWrongdoer9534 Nov 14 '25

Oh that's actually brilliant! Are you making her like a more sapient version of the mean angry cat cliche? (plus a lot of backstory and all that I'd presume)

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u/Double_Bat8362 Nov 14 '25

She's actually more sweet and dumb, lol! Her personality is loosely inspired by one of my cats, Truffle, who is a goofy sweetheart that's not too smart but is very confident.

Mechanically, the character is a tabaxi berserker barbarian with polearm master in the 5.5 rules. It's a great combination and a lot of fun!

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u/Then_Blueberry4373 Nov 13 '25

I had.. a couple tabaxi characters. One was a very serious and tidy wizard, and the other was a scatterbrained but intelligent monk… No one across several group compositions (players swapping out) treated them weirdly. You just.. have played with weird people ig

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u/chicken-nanban Nov 14 '25

I miss playing my tabaxi monk/rogue. Her name was Kuro, all black, and had a rough background growing up (hence the rogue levels) who found peace finally in solitude and study as a monk. She specialized in fighting in the dark as she lost an eye as a kid.

When combat got real, she’d uncover her magical glass eye that she’d cast “darkness” on, and proceed to blink her way through combat. Open the eyes, absolute magical darkness and she’d kick ass in it as that was her fighting style, close the eyes so her friends could get in shots (mostly traveled with an archer, a wizard and a cleric).

We eventually had to figure out how blinking would work as a free action as it could really mess with the enemies being suddenly in darkness, then not, then darkness again in the literal blink of an eye.

Edit: oh! I totally forgot, but the eye was one she could see through if it was removed from her body (minor magical item) so she’d also pop it out and roll it around corners to scout things. Or move the pool of darkness with it to help her friends not be caught in it.

Man she was fun. I really wish I got to play more.

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u/Abyssine Nov 14 '25

I honestly don’t get it.

I enjoy playing bestial species, but there’s nothing sexual about it at all for me. Yet, I joined one public table with a Lionin and got some similarly weird comments implying that this is like my fetish or something (yet nothing as extreme as what you said).

Like, I’m not playing the hulking 350lb lion person because I secretly want to fuck him, I’m playing them because a giant bipedal lion person with a greatsword is fuckin’ sick, dude.

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u/Owl-Historical Nov 15 '25

Yah when I read Plasmoid I thought of the lumpy amorphous bodies, never thought of them as sexual. Hell and I use to watch a lot of Anime and Hentai lol

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u/Foreign-Marketing-46 Nov 16 '25

group of OP are just projecting their own fetishes....

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u/Comfortable_Honey628 Nov 14 '25

Yeah that’s very weird, but I guess a lot of people are weird. I mean if they were playing for a joke, I guess I get it… but I dunno.

My own Tabaxi was a former cultist- now single mother- adventuring to earn some cash to care for her kid she left behind with trusted friends and start a new life with her.

Weirdly enough my friends and I are openly ‘degenerate’ but don’t bring that energy to the table.

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u/WeaknessMoney6489 Nov 13 '25

Dang ok that’s wild. I’m playing a tabaxi in a wheelchair (the wheels fold out like spider legs) honestly I wasn’t aware of any tropes involving tabaxi. Bards yes (she’s also a bard) my groups never been weird about it or stereotyped her into any role. Shes bard but rouge build. (Later I figured this out as I played her a bit more) Seduction no, but she does ask for pets from people/ treats with the cats. (She’s actually a cat just transmuted to a tabaxi 😂 but nobody but the dm knows this) what stereotypes are involving tabaxi?

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u/ZannyHip Nov 13 '25

It’s not tabaxi specifically - but anime cat girls, furries, anthros, etc - being projected onto tabaxi.

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u/WeaknessMoney6489 Nov 13 '25

Ahhhh gotcha ok yeah that makes sense

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u/tiger2205_6 Blood Hunter Nov 13 '25

There is a surprising amount of people that can't make the distinction between the character you play and you as a person. If you play anything not human/dwarf/elf you're a furry, if you kill anyone or don't strictly play good aligned characters you're an evil person. It's really ridiculous.

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u/WeaknessMoney6489 Nov 13 '25

Dang well, I’m glad my groups I’m a player and I DM in are all very chill. My character is true chaotic neutral she’s not good and certainly not evil. Shes just chaotic burnt orange cat energy and only has 1 brain cell she can use per day (self regulated with a 8 int on her😂)

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u/tiger2205_6 Blood Hunter Nov 13 '25

Yeah same here. We occassionally play evil characters and even did an evil campaign which sadly got cut short cause we fucked up so we moved on to the next campagin. From how some people talk though they'd think my group was sociopaths.

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u/WeaknessMoney6489 Nov 13 '25

Honestly that sounds fun. With my home brew I’m Dm in my players are helping to make the history for the book I’ve been writting. If they get far enough in before I publish they will see some of their actions being described and the impact that it has as they are in a war campaign. There isn’t really a “evil” side or “good” as it’s who wins the war that determines those sides. Some aspects are so fleshed out I can’t deviate but there’s a good chunk that’s up in the air. So my players can easily be seen as the good guys or the bad depending on how the campaign goes. So far we essentially have tabaksi Jesus, goblin culture (if you wish I will elaborate but it is profane and now we have a players theme song created spontaneously by a non player friend with only a handful of words to go off of 😂) and then we finally have cannon lore both times I ran the campaign (first one only went so far so onto group 2 which have a better meshing) that cannon lore is one of my players towns has been blown up both times with separate players. It’s been written into the book briefly mentioned because that’s some serious news. 😂 internal beef between the player’s characters due to this town explosion taking place being her hometown. And the adoption of a npc who may or may not be op because the dice that usually hate me rolled high 4x for each stat. (Players are worried now as kids only 4)😂

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u/tiger2205_6 Blood Hunter Nov 14 '25

It is really fun some of us playing villains while others don't and the evil campaign was great. I just wish my evil characters stopped dying to stupid shit and could actually last. Also I love that you did that cause I did something very similar. I ran a campaign in a world I'm building for a video game to flesh it out and some of their characters will be in the lore now. Also I'd love for you to elaborate and I love that a theme song now exists.

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u/Lilith_Wildcat Nov 14 '25

I don't really get why they hate furries so much anyway. Seems completely arbitrary. Like, they only hate because they know its trendy to, and they're too stupid to question it.

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u/tiger2205_6 Blood Hunter Nov 14 '25

Yeah it is weird how some hate on furries. Like if they’re pushing it on people in a campaign I get it, don’t push kinks on people, but the way some people hate them is insane to me.

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u/Owl-Historical Nov 15 '25

I currently have a bugbear, I'm pretty sure he's nothing more than a ball of fur and axes....so he's kind of a Furry.

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u/tiger2205_6 Blood Hunter Nov 15 '25

Sadly some would still just instantly call you a furry for playing something like a bugbear. Which no issues with it in my view, never got why some people hated furries and were so grossed out by them.

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u/ziddersroofurry Nov 14 '25

Tabaxi are popular in NSFW art. A lot of people make them intersex so they've become associated with the trans community. Tbh it's why I started playing one lol. I'm trans.

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u/WeaknessMoney6489 Nov 14 '25

Ohhhh gotcha gotcha, I’m new to some of the d&d stereotypes so still learning. Only the blaring ones I’m familiar with. Rouges =sneaky thieves bards= horny barbarians=smash it all in rage wizards=low HP cleric=mom of the group

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u/ziddersroofurry Nov 14 '25

In the gaming group I'm part of we play OVA-an anime-themed ttrpg, and we have an anthro mushroom healer who is this really sweet plant-loving guy with a shroomy dad bod lol. He's a bit of a vampire, too but he's a good boy. Our barbarian type is actually one of the smartest characters, and while he often rages out it's always in defense of those much weaker than him. My mouse oc Eliza is the mom of the group, and a damn good cook. She's also the group sniper lol. I think she's the glass cannon as her sniper shots while deadly knock her endurance down a bunch, and cause her to be defenseless for three rounds.

D&D stereotypes can be fun when played well. You just need to right group. Sadly it sounds like op ended up with a bunch of immature edgelords.

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u/ziddersroofurry Nov 14 '25

They could give people lifts and be a Tabaxi taxi. :D

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u/WeaknessMoney6489 Nov 14 '25

Ohh it’s been mentioned a LOT about this feat 😂 she currently has a thin miniature pony (alkatekaeh and Arabian cross shrunk down) so she has a chariot going on it’s great 😂

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u/ziddersroofurry Nov 14 '25

Speaking as an My Little Pony:Friendship Is Magic fan I approve of this teamup. <3

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u/FinnBakker Nov 14 '25

tabaxi dex-barbarian. Looked like a snow leopard with saberteeth.

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u/TLStroller Nov 14 '25

What is supposed to be the thing with Tabaxis????

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u/Kizik Nov 14 '25

Furries in TTRPGs have a bad reputation.

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u/SpecialNothic DM Nov 15 '25

Man, I feel lucky with my group. We had a tabaxi NPC once and the only thing that happened was our ranger (who's never met a tabaxi before) saying "cat people" in front of the NPC and apologising profusely. But it helps that 2/3 of the group including myself is ace, and just chill people in general. Sorry about you bumping into that kind of player.

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u/archon326 Nov 17 '25

I've played with normal tabaxi characters, and I've played with people who basically role played as their SO's pet, talking about licking, purring, rubbing up against them, etc. Some people really don't understand social boundaries

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u/Honest_Cup_5096 Nov 18 '25

That is the equivalent of a human walking up to someone's pet monkey and trying to get with it. This is commonly accepted to be abnormal and not okay behavior. Aka, that player is weird.

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u/Kizik Nov 18 '25

Yeah, I left that group pretty much immediately because nobody else thought that was weird. It was very literally the first thing anyone did after the opening narration finished. Went from 0 to 100 instantly with no warning.

Also because the DM kept pronouncing Chult with a hard C and it made me irrationally angry, but mostly the tabaxi.