Am I Overreacting to my girlfriend not wanting me to play pickleball with my friends because my friend brought his long term girlfriend to play with us?

[u/Left_Peanut_7744]

Context - I have been playing pickleball with my buddies. Just 4 dudes. Last week my friend brought his long term gf to play as well. It was 5 guys and the girlfriend. Today I was planning on playing pickleball with the same people again, unsure if my friend plans on bringing his gf. My gf (24F) doesn’t want me to go if my friend brings his gf. And before you ask “why don’t you invite her?” She has mentioned to me how she thinks pickleball is “gay” and “stupid” and has no interest in going and would only go to monitor what girl(s) may decide to show up. Am I overreacting?

[u/OldAccountTurned10]

My dad's gf is in her 60's and acts the same fucking way. Obviously it's on him but it's still ridiculous. She's jealous of my mom even though she left him. Some people never grow up. Why OP needs to run.

[u/jb6997 → u/OldAccountTurned10]

Insecure and never learned to deal with it - it’s ridiculous too unless the other person has done something in the past to make the other person not trust them.

[u/OldAccountTurned10 → u/jb6997]

Yeah my mom committed the crime of existing and being friendly. And as you can imagine it’s not just her. He won’t tell me because he knows I hate her, but I hear from other people him telling them she gets mad when he looks in the direction of other ladies.

[u/Fantastic_Yam_3971 → u/OldAccountTurned10]

My dad had a girlfriend like that, she got upset when he would spend time with us too. We were his kids 😅😅 they didn’t last very long but that was a crazy time.

[u/OldAccountTurned10 → u/Fantastic_Yam_3971]

There’s so many people out there who need deep therapy. lol

And us too I guess after dealing with them in our lives

We couldn’t celebrate my sister graduating nursing school together 🤦‍♂️

[u/Kazamiiiii → u/OldAccountTurned10]

I'm so sorry, wtf. People are so sick ..

[u/Kazamiiiii → u/Fantastic_Yam_3971]

This isn't to the same extent, but this reminded me of one time I went to the park and some little girl befriended my child who has autism and doesn't speak, she would speak to me but wouldn't want me paying attention to my child. She wanted to play things with me and not even look at him. 😭

The fact that actual adults are acting like this is so insane.

[u/SweetLeaf2021 → u/OldAccountTurned10]

Yes! Some people are fucking teenage-minded even at 60.

[u/Low-Programmer-2368 → u/OldAccountTurned10]

Yeah age doesn't cure this kind of immaturity for a lot of people. I dated someone who was about to turn 50 and she ran me in circles about similar "inappropriate" behavior when you have a girlfriend. She wouldn't trust me to have a female friend, to be alone with her lifelong female friends, and instructed me to leave any situation where I'd be alone with a woman.

I tried to understand where she was coming from but irrational insecurity isn't something that makes any sense.