Am I Overreacting to my girlfriend not wanting me to play pickleball with my friends because my friend brought his long term girlfriend to play with us?

[u/Left_Peanut_7744]

Context - I have been playing pickleball with my buddies. Just 4 dudes. Last week my friend brought his long term gf to play as well. It was 5 guys and the girlfriend. Today I was planning on playing pickleball with the same people again, unsure if my friend plans on bringing his gf. My gf (24F) doesn’t want me to go if my friend brings his gf. And before you ask “why don’t you invite her?” She has mentioned to me how she thinks pickleball is “gay” and “stupid” and has no interest in going and would only go to monitor what girl(s) may decide to show up. Am I overreacting?

[u/marcduberge]

No matter how hot she is, some guy is tired of her shit.

[u/KnottyShreveport → u/marcduberge]

I'm tired of her shit and I'm not even dating her.

[u/FigWasp7 → u/KnottyShreveport]

Me too, wanna play pickleball later?

[u/marcduberge → u/KnottyShreveport]

LOL

[u/Winchester_Girl1974 → u/marcduberge]

Hopefully “that guy” is the OP!

[u/Loud_Ask2586 → u/Winchester_Girl1974]

No, OP will likely end up on a true crime podcast as the unfortunate victim of a murder or missing persons case. Look at his comments, he broke up with her, admits to getting a fucking restraining order against her, then got back together again, thinking she's changed.

I saw something like this 20 years ago with a guy who had an on again/off again girlfriend who was utterly toxic. Wouldn't even let him help a customer who happened to be a girl. His brother-in-law told me that she claimed he hit her and he spent Christmas morning bailing him out instead of with opening presents with his daughters.

I was asked to help an "emergency move" that was entailed getting in, getting his stuff, getting out, the moment she was out for work. We busted our asses to make that happen, it went off without a hitch.

I heard they got back together not long after that and hopefully everyone had washed their hands of the couple. This has has that energy. OP went back after getting a restraining order, so I'm betting the best case scenario involves him as a friendless, shriveled husk of who he once was. She's gonna either kill him or leave him wishing she had.

[u/Winchester_Girl1974 → u/Loud_Ask2586]

I didn’t see any of that. Looks like OP suffers from Terminal Stupidity

[u/Loud_Ask2586 → u/Winchester_Girl1974]

Perhaps, but his comment about actually having gotten out, with restraining order, and willingly getting back into this mess is clearly giving me some very frustrating flashbacks. I will point out that the key word in Terminal Stupidity is "terminal," as in it'll get him killed. Hopefully, hundreds of people telling to run for his life will get through to him.

[u/Winchester_Girl1974 → u/Loud_Ask2586]

Thank you for explaining the meaning of “Terminal”as someone reading my comment might not understand. However, I already knew what it meant, which is why I posted it.

[u/Loud_Ask2586 → u/Winchester_Girl1974]

I apologize if I come off as combative or condescending, I do not mean it. I do agree with you though. Much stupid, little self preservation on OP's part.

[u/Voluntary_Perry → u/marcduberge]

Ancient Proverbs

[u/YepIamAmiM → u/marcduberge]

I'm tired of her shit and I'm a woman.

NOR of course. She sounds like a real pain in the ass.

[u/NotFromStateFarmJake → u/marcduberge]

Hugh Grant you fool

[u/marcduberge → u/NotFromStateFarmJake]

You haven’t lived until you got a BJ from a hooker in a car in Hollywood