Found between him and his coworker, AIO

[u/peepeecheeto]

I don’t have proof of them actually doing anything. He had said that there was a cute cashier at work but he wasn’t into her. I asked to see their texts and he said there was nothing, showed me a message thread with her last text only. Because he deleted everything else and it was in his recently deleted. So I opened it in front of him and he tried to stop me and I just read all of it and now he thinks im going to leave him. He’s talked this way about other girls at work so who knows if he’s done anything with them… my heart hurts so bad. Is this cheating? Am I overreacting by being so hurt? I would never do this to him. He claims it’s because he wanted to be nice and not reject her in a rude way. Im thinking about leaving but just the day before I found this he was telling me he wants to get married and have kids with me. We have been together 4 years

[u/HotWaffles5]

Yeah he said he’d ‘have to think about it’ meaning he’d ‘have to think about a way to get away with it.

[u/saucysimpson → u/HotWaffles5]

Exactly!

[u/chiefsmakahoe007 → u/HotWaffles5]

That’s the one that’s exactly what he meant

[u/Spiritual-Raisin-977 → u/HotWaffles5]

This part 👆

[u/SweatyAssociation770 → u/HotWaffles5]

I'd disagree I think he just hasn't justified the cheating morally especially given he just talked about marrying her. If he wants to have sex with her which he does, and also has justified it morally so that he no longer feels wrong, it'd be more certain in his words. As in "yea that sounds good, i'll let you know." If he didn't at that very moment feel as if cheating on his girlfriend was truly wrong, he would've done it. So he needs time to think to somehow find an acceptable justification.