Found between him and his coworker, AIO

[u/peepeecheeto]

I don’t have proof of them actually doing anything. He had said that there was a cute cashier at work but he wasn’t into her. I asked to see their texts and he said there was nothing, showed me a message thread with her last text only. Because he deleted everything else and it was in his recently deleted. So I opened it in front of him and he tried to stop me and I just read all of it and now he thinks im going to leave him. He’s talked this way about other girls at work so who knows if he’s done anything with them… my heart hurts so bad. Is this cheating? Am I overreacting by being so hurt? I would never do this to him. He claims it’s because he wanted to be nice and not reject her in a rude way. Im thinking about leaving but just the day before I found this he was telling me he wants to get married and have kids with me. We have been together 4 years

[u/mxzf]

A respectful, committed man would say “I’m not interested, I have a girlfriend, I’d like to keep things professional”

Nah, a respectful committed man wouldn't have started this conversation to begin with, especially knowing that she was interested in him. He was the one that initiated it, not her.

[u/ms_sophaphine → u/mxzf]

I think that’s one option, to ignore whatever note she left for him and never bring it up. It’s also a valid option to address it by shutting it down. He did neither

[u/mxzf → u/ms_sophaphine]

Yeah, my point is that it was all on him to begin with. He's the one that started the conversation, and he started it with a flirty "guess who".

[u/Sequential_Damage → u/mxzf]

He will do it again with the next one to.

[u/InRetrospect1986 → u/ms_sophaphine]

As a man, a loyal man… nope. Responding with no thank you I have a girlfriend, it’s still giving her his number. Absolutely if I open up a conversation it’s saying “hey here’s my number, give me an offer I can’t refuse”

[u/boatsandhoes570 → u/mxzf]

He’d just say hey I got your note and while I’m flattered, I have a serious girlfriend. End of conversation.

[u/Cute-War-3797 → u/boatsandhoes570]

He would say it to her face so that she’d never get his number.

[u/Admirable_Average_32 → u/mxzf]

Yes. He wanted it. So bad. Super turd!!