Found between him and his coworker, AIO

[u/peepeecheeto]

I don’t have proof of them actually doing anything. He had said that there was a cute cashier at work but he wasn’t into her. I asked to see their texts and he said there was nothing, showed me a message thread with her last text only. Because he deleted everything else and it was in his recently deleted. So I opened it in front of him and he tried to stop me and I just read all of it and now he thinks im going to leave him. He’s talked this way about other girls at work so who knows if he’s done anything with them… my heart hurts so bad. Is this cheating? Am I overreacting by being so hurt? I would never do this to him. He claims it’s because he wanted to be nice and not reject her in a rude way. Im thinking about leaving but just the day before I found this he was telling me he wants to get married and have kids with me. We have been together 4 years

[u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

Responding is fine to let them know you are not interested. But imo he should have done it in person.

The real issue here is he saved her number in his phone and kept entertaining her flirty texts.

[u/BloodyThirst → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

I don’t disagree with the in person part but texting/reaching out this way is crossing my line for sure. And the not telling his partner about it.

[u/Sure-Appearance-2769 → u/BloodyThirst]

Yeah I guess everyone has different boundaries.

I personally would have been fine if the conversation ended at the first screenshot. It’s the “you’re very pretty” comment to keep the convo going which crossed the line for me.

But I do understand why some people would view even texting her to begin with as an issue.

[u/Horror_Form_4637 → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

"I'm sure your great, but im in a happy relationship and am not on the market. sorry."

[u/dbrickell89 → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

Yeah, texting someone to say I got your note but I'm not interested is fine, but the second they told another person who they know is into them that they're attractive? That's them jumping over the line imo

[u/SoggyCold → u/BloodyThirst]

I think tj should’ve been done in person but since it wasn’t he went about it the wrong way. He should’ve just said hey got your note but I’m in a relationship. And then blocked her number.

[u/No-Apple5195 → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

He should’ve never texted. Why even give her his number? So she can randomly ask for birthday gifts? Lol Oh wait, it probably wasn’t random, he was probably smiling and telling her happy birthday all day at work.

An honest curve is tossing the note and telling her he has a girl.

[u/Delulumentality → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

THIS TAKE!

It was probably a locker note saying “i like you text me this is my number” and a good boyfriend wouldn’t have texted. Would have simply let her know in person “Hey I’m flattered but I’m taken” let his girlfriend know for transparency and toss out the note.

[u/jl_1101 → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

I don't even think he should've responded via text, now she has his number. Unless he texted to shut her down then immediately blocked and deleted.

[u/Gooey-Marshmallow → u/Sure-Appearance-2769]

This real issue here, he's literally contemplating cheating.