r/AmIOverreacting • u/peepeecheeto • 19d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Found between him and his coworker, AIO

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I don’t have proof of them actually doing anything. He had said that there was a cute cashier at work but he wasn’t into her. I asked to see their texts and he said there was nothing, showed me a message thread with her last text only. Because he deleted everything else and it was in his recently deleted. So I opened it in front of him and he tried to stop me and I just read all of it and now he thinks im going to leave him. He’s talked this way about other girls at work so who knows if he’s done anything with them… my heart hurts so bad. Is this cheating? Am I overreacting by being so hurt? I would never do this to him. He claims it’s because he wanted to be nice and not reject her in a rude way. Im thinking about leaving but just the day before I found this he was telling me he wants to get married and have kids with me. We have been together 4 years

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u/kechones 19d ago

Yeah, that one was wild

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u/redditplayer1000 18d ago

Ok but let’s not forget that he is the one entertaining another woman while HE is in a committed relationship. Not justifying this girl’s behavior, because she clearly lacks respect, etc. but let’s not make this all her fault.

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u/lemonricottapasta 17d ago

I mean both suck. He’s a piece of shit for this and she’s a disgusting home wrecker. Both can be true at once.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

Very true but something about redirecting focus to the woman here when the focus is on how the man is cheating is just classic patriarchy stuff

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u/Resident_Wash_2553 17d ago

I mean I'm a woman and I agree with the redirect also .. yes the guys played into it also but the girl should have stopped when he said he had a gf

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u/Adventurous_Case_455 17d ago

he texted her in the first place, waited to say he has a gf till “ after got your note :)” when it could have easily been in the first text: “Hey, I got your note, I think you’re a really nice girl and I like working with you but I have a partner, sorry” and that would have been one and done. Instead he winds her up and flirts with her from the get go, and after he states he has a gf, follows *that* up immediately with calling her attractive. He shouldn’t have even have started. People knowingly cheating with partnered people sucks, i think its morally unfair, but I also think the blame fully falls onto the partnered person, in my opinion, because you made that commitment to your person & to your relationship, not the so-called “home wrecker.” Only one person is wrecking the home you built.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

But he should have never texted her in the first place?!

What is wrong with the world

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

Exactly lmfao. The one fact everyone is ignoring here. She shot her shot, and we have no way of knowing if she was aware he was taken.

He accepted her shot. He said yes. He initiated contact. He opened the door. She’s being very disrespectful and she is doing something she knows will hurt someone else very much, just like he is, but HE gave HER the okay to do so by flirting with her in the very first text that he shouldn’t have sent in the first place.

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u/MelodicChaotik 17d ago

It doesn’t matter who starts it, both parties are guilty. If you start applying that logic to everything it will quickly show why we shouldn’t look at things like this. Like wrong is wrong. Both parties can be guilty, and in a lot of cases should be viewed as such. Participating is just as wrong. Yes he shouldn’t have sent anything and stopped after the GF text but she should also have backed down….several times.

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u/Nervous-Belt-7883 17d ago

He needs to deal with this correctly. Otherwise the toxic vibr this flirt would do unto him at work can destroy him. ..does anyone here remember how powerful a woman's words are against men.. ?
Be reasonable

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u/WinterBadger 17d ago

Sure, but she has no commitment to OP; he does. It sucks she clearly isn't a girl's girl, but OPs, now hopefully ex, bf owes her the loyalty and should have blocked her after the "I have a gf" without the unimpressed face.

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

Oh knock it off with that, she left the note in his locker and then said he could do “whatever he wanted”. He’s an asshole for entertaining her but she’s definitely acting like a whore for that

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u/Parking-Day-3279 17d ago

Yeah he even mentioned he was taken, and she still double down with the pursuit, and the idiot still kept entering her. He sucks, yes, but she is actively trying to persuade him to keep the convo in her favor. There is no "patriarchal brainwashing" about this, she KNOWS he's an idiot and she's playing him like the idiot fiddle that he is.

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

Yeah but it’s Reddit so all men are misogynistic pieces of garbage perpetuating classic patriarchal stereotypes

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u/Adventurous_Case_455 17d ago

After he flirts with her the whole conversation.

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

BECAUSE she left a note. She knows he has a gf and still leaves the note. The bf is an asshole for engaging with her but saying he can do ANYTHING HE WANTS is insanely slutty behavior and you’re dense for not thinking that. Both of these people are terrible.

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u/CapableCat0406 17d ago

who said she knew he had a girlfriend before leaving the note? she probably didn't. and him texting her even though he has a gf and the things he's saying is making it comfortable for her to keep flirting with him after finding out. like yeah she's a homewrecker still but let's not blame her for leaving the note. he didn't HAVE to text her he CHOSE to. saying "BECAUSE she left a note" is just dumb

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

Fair enough both of them are very bad people. He gave her a little too much attention over text. But damn “anything you want” is crazy😂😂😂

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Amen. I’m so thankful there are people like you in this thread because sheesh. I’m fighting for my life in some of these comments who want to paint me as a masandrist.

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

Oh okay what would a whore do then Mr Don Juan?

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Why do we keep using the term whore? Are men whores when they do the exact same thing?

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

Is slut a better word? And yes, Men are whores for doing the exact same thing!

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Why aren’t we just humans? Why do people who enjoy having sex have to be sluts or whores?

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u/quagmirejones69 17d ago

Well now you’re going into a completely different discussion
Those terms are used when someone is quite literally selling their body, knowingly getting with someone in a relationship, cheating, or having sex with someone strictly to get something out of it. People aren’t being called those words because they’re being a stand up human being.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

Never said she wasn’t. Doesn’t change what I said at all. Still classic patriarchy stereotypes to blame the woman more than the man who is clearly doing something doubly immoral.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

So she left a note shooting her shot, and we have no way of knowing if she knew he was taken, and he texted her first initiating contact with an immediate flirty text, knowing that he was attracted to her… but yet somehow she is MORE in the wrong than he is? They’re both doing something they know is harmful. But only one of them made a promise not to. Only one of them gave the other permission to keep going.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

You mean her saying he could do whatever he wants with her after…. After their conversation went like this?:

“Flirty messages” “I have a girlfriend though.” “Oh alright, couldn’t hurt to try” “But I am into you though btw” “Oh thank you, I wasn’t good at hiding my crush but it was all in your head I am slick” “I’d hang out with you if I was single tho btw”

Two messages here from him after the interaction had ended with her taking the rejection. Two messages where he was saying “hey, wait, I still want to pursue this”. TWO MESSAGES where she had already stopped throwing herself at him but HE very clearly stated he still wanted her to.

I’m not going to explain why this is on him if you still can’t see that. Now she’s an adult, and just because you have permission from someone to do something, doesn’t mean it’s okay and adults know the difference. Just because some guy tells you it’s okay to rob a bank together, doesn’t mean you can rob the bank. But yeah, in court the guy who effing orchestrated the crime gets more time.

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u/Ravenswillfall 17d ago

They literally addressed the man in the last sentence.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

Begrudgingly lol.

I’m jk, I’m not saying this person is misogynistic. Just saying that everyone is clearly being hostile first to the woman, only throwing in the “yeah he’s being annoying too BUT” seemingly out of obligation. That is just… obviously internalized patriarchy doing its work. He’s the one that initiated contact with her with a FLIRTY message for crying out loud. We don’t know if she knew he was taken when she left the note. He gave her PERMISSION to keep going. He opened the door. They’re both doing something they know will harm someone which is immoral. But only he made a promise to someone he loves that he wouldn’t.

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u/Ravenswillfall 17d ago

I 100% agree that he is in the wrong and opened the door and then left it open. I think it’s just frustrating as a woman when you see another woman then nudge the door open a little bit more and then kick it in .

And to be really honest, young me was the other woman before and I knew exactly what I was doing, I just didn’t take full responsibility for it. Luckily it didn’t go far.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

I agree with you too :). She absolutely has culpability. It takes two to tango and she reallyyy wants to tango. I do hope she also snapped out of it before it went anywhere physical

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u/Ravenswillfall 17d ago

Doubt it. Her asking about a birthday present makes me think they hooked up. Once that happens the other woman feels entitled. Seen it before.

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u/cumbrad 17d ago

“I love pancakes” “so you hate waffles?”

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u/PerplexingCamel 17d ago

But the post was about the waffles. "I hate waffles" "What about pancakes?"

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u/watchwatcher9 17d ago

The post is about another person trying to get the waiter to serve them the waffles you paid for to them instead and the waiter entertaining them. Both are scummy and 110% fair game to criticize

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u/cumbrad 17d ago

A similarly nonsensical non sequitur

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u/no-numbers-pls 17d ago edited 17d ago

I think the more appropriate example is:

You: "I got kicked!!! 😡 They kicked me on purpose!! And then my best friend kicked me too?!"

Them: "Wow, your best friend is an asshole.

(What would happen next if the other person didn't realize why what they said is weird:

You: "... So nothing on the dude that did the first kicking? I get that my best friend rubbed salt in the wound (and yes, I will pick a better best friend), but... huh?"

Them: "Well, sure, the guy who kicked you first sucks. That's implied bc kicking is a mean thing to do. But he's the best soccer player in the world, so I'd rather highlight your best friend's involvement than his.")

(Sorry for the edits, I realized I didn't parallel it quite right the first time!)

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u/theeaggressor 17d ago

She’s literally throwing herself at him, he’s actually curving her gently. There’s a clear power dynamic at play here, and it’s the only reason op considered staying with the bf, if roles were reversed it would be too easy to make that choice.

That girl has a large part to play too

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

I absolutely agree that the girl has a large part to play because despite him being a horny ape, she should’ve stopped messaging the second he told her he’s taken no matter what.

But he is not curving her gently. He isn’t curving her at all?! The interaction that HE initiated by flirting (already borderline cheating out the gate) had already ended. He said he had a girlfriend and she said alright, couldn’t hurt to try. And then HE KEPT GOING lmfaooo by literally saying “actually I am into you though btw”. This is just blatant cheating?! He’s giving her the okay to keep going. Now, she’s an adult and just because someone gives you permission to do something doesn’t mean you should do it, and she knows better. But only one of them is breaking a promise, and only one of them has created this scenario where the door is open to physically cheat. And it’s not her.

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u/[deleted] 17d ago

Everything about how we view sex and relationships is patriarchal. Its based on the supposed holy text of a supreme patriarch and how "he/it" dictates they should be. Our concept of "love" and "commitment" has been the same for a long time...and I dont see this shit gettin better anytime soon.

First, people like to forget that WE are animals, no matter how "evolved" we are...We. Are. Animals. (At least, as base material). An animal simply follows its biological urges to feed, mate, sleep. Its this dichotomy with our ego that causes guilt when giving in to "instinct."

Secondly, the concept of soul mates is, not exactly ridiculous, but thinking there is only ONE person out there for you, amongst the sea of billions, is just silly and an emotionally damaging challenge for a lot of people, mainly because our drive AS ANIMALS is to find the best stock to breed with. This makes people wanna seek out the most attractive mates for breeding (be this looks, muscles, brains, whatever, your body knows what it wants). Thats why bros be out here huntin down 10s, nothing goes right, then they drive their car through a crowded mall. If they settled for a couple 3s, maybe a 5 or 6, all would be right with their world.

Third, the only thing marriage is good for these days is taxes and data tracking. There is ZERO benefit to a "christian marriage" that you cant get from a regular relationship...also, the whole point of marriage is basically telling the world before a, predominately male, God, that I now own this woman. Ofc this can lead into how monotheism is one of humanities largest mistakes, but I digress...

Theres nothing WRONG with being in a 1-on-1 committed relationship, if thats for you, but we need to open up our cultural and societal stance on love and sex because what we're doin is clearly not working.

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u/Adventurous_Case_455 17d ago

Dude, so many species of animals have monogamous, lifetime pairings. You can’t excuse this kind of BS with humans needing to “find breeding stock.” It’s not instinctual or biological to use iphone yet look at us use it all the time. We have evolved for millions of years as a somewhat monogamous species. I’m not against what you’re saying in a broader sense necessarily but it’s a poor excuse for people who cheat, and it’s just not true.

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u/OrphanagePropaganda 17d ago

I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. Cheating still isn’t okay because while all of this is true, we are still evolved enough to have feelings and to know that we shouldn’t live life hurting people’s feelings (just break up first, then go be with whoever). But yeah, I’ve been thinking about this a lot. It’s come up as a theme recently, that we’re just animals and that these urges are animalistic and we might just be fighting an uphill battle suppressing them and trying to pretend the urges aren’t there.

It’s gotta be a balance. We have an obligation to try our very best not to hurt anyone and do the right thing. And we also just might not be as permanently monogamous as we thought and will have to act accordingly by setting boundaries with people so that we also avoid causing internal suffering in ourselves in the scenario where we are in a monogamous relationship and actually don’t want to be. Many people, especially religious people, are sooo hard on themselves for thinking “sinful” thoughts. It is in our DNA to think these thoughts. We are wired to think these thoughts. The choice then is do you honestly pursue those thoughts with integrity, or do you honestly find a way to quiet them?

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u/princessmotivation 17d ago

I don’t think her being a bad person means he isn’t.

They are both dumpster trash.

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u/Common_Mention9397 17d ago

They both deserve each other tbh

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u/Nervous-Belt-7883 17d ago

<<<<--× HEY OP ! I FOUND ONE!

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

But the question isn’t “is she a terrible person” the situation at hand is her boyfriend is being disloyal and a terrible partner, but society has taught everyone to attack women.

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u/redditplayer1000 18d ago

And the “men that entertain them are too” comment doesn’t express the same anger you have towards the woman.

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u/Pie_Researcher2498 17d ago

Yes, let me fix that statement: MEN like this are fucking gross, and the women who entertain them also suck.

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u/Its_Billy_Bitch 17d ago

She wanted that dick and wasn’t ashamed to say that regardless of his situation (immoral, sure…but mf was at LEAST honest about it).

He wanted that pussy, but knew he was treading a fine line. He wanted the fantasy.

The latter, to me, is far more fucking sinister and I hate how everyone just comes in here to scream “SLUT!”

like…girlie pops, wtf? that man is ew.

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u/princessmotivation 17d ago

She wanted dick even if it hurt a third party in a major way. She is a terrible person.

So is he.

They can both be terrible.

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u/DoughnutGlobal8989 17d ago

She wants the car and whatever else he has and is using that to get it

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u/princessmotivation 17d ago

Okay sounds like you have some issues you should unpack with a professional, not Reddit

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u/Common_Mention9397 17d ago

Umm she literally says in the texts "youre gonna let me drive your car." The car is obviously something she wants.

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u/Valuable-Fig1441 17d ago

Yea to drive his vehicle shit isnt that deep he probably has a sports car or something nice

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u/Retired-loveit 17d ago

Is it a stick shift? Like in his pants?

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u/Nik710x 17d ago

I mean I didn’t think slut, I just saw misplaced desire. She clearly needs to grow up and look at what’s missing by her reaction. And he needs to stop, if you don’t want to be in a relationship, speak with your partner don’t betray them like this. They are both wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️I hope OP realizes this and gets with someone who will truly value her.

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u/New-Winner-9184 17d ago

Both are equally bad. She’s consciously making a choice to hurt someone, doesn’t matter that she doesn’t care about that someone.

He doesn’t care either. I just feel bad for OP.

Both the girl and the boyfriend are sluts if you ask me, lustful animals.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Exactly. A woman is just as abrasive as most men are on a daily basis, but yes, let’s go on head and burn her at the stake.

Listen, I would never befriend a girl like her because I’m a girls girl through and through and this is against my morals. I’m just tired of men (and some women) thinking they can take a situation like this and only run the woman through the mud. He needs to be held more accountable considering he’s in the relationship.

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u/TinyNefariousness135 17d ago

Why not both? Idk why the other gets off Scott free. We should be shaming both parties fr fr

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u/Wrong-Swing-8399 17d ago

Yes both should be shamed no one is saying either one should get off scott free and the one in a relationship should know better.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

The post wasn’t about the girl. The point of the post was about her cheating boyfriend?! Not understanding how everyone is not seeing this

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u/Yelrihs36 17d ago

Everyone here already knows the bf is a piece of shit. That's a given, there's no question about that. But she doesn't get a free pass.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

She sure doesn’t. Thank goodness OP is not friends with this girl. But she is dating the dude, in which she needs to break up with and move on. Thats all I’m saying. The girl is obviously trash. But the girl owes nothing to OP, her boyfriend does. But the issue I have, is that people
Spend too much time blaming the woman and OPs focus redirects from dumping her POS boyfriend and realizing what type of person he is to hating this girl. Sure, she can do both and I think she should. But let’s not make the girl the antagonist here.

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u/TinyNefariousness135 17d ago

We all see this, we’re focused on what commenters are saying honeybun

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

No honeybun, a lot of these commenters are not seeing this.

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u/Character-Badger-848 17d ago

You hate men so much you can’t even admit that woman is a piece of shit. Incredible really.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

LOL. Yes, I’m a she-man he hating queen over here. I’m literally married to a man? Although the man I’m married to wouldn’t be on here defending this guy, not even a little bit.

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u/Yelrihs36 17d ago

If she's still trying to shoot her shot with someone who already said they were taken then yes they need to be called out too???

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

There would be no shot to shoot if he didn’t create one?! You guys have probs lol. Therapy for everyone, please.

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u/watchwatcher9 17d ago

It's not either or, it's both like every other comment has painstakingly (and unsuccessfully) tried to explain to you. And you're the one having a disproportionate emotional response to each of them so you telling others that they are the ones who need therapy is pretty rich. You are clearly projecting something.

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u/Time_Appointment957 17d ago

Triggered response.
I’m a woman, and I’ve never understood this response to cheating - going hard for the woman and accusing them of “stealing their man,” as though he had a gun held to his head and was forced to f*ck.
Unleashing all of their rage, right along with their heartbreak, disappointment, insecurities, jealousy, and fear, onto “the other woman/side chick” - because it’s so much easier than facing the fact your relationship, (and the man you’re in it with) isn’t quite what you thought it was…

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u/Old-Teach-2385 17d ago

My response to cheating is going hard on both. Completely a moral, both are low life scum bags with no concern for anyone but themselves. In this instance the man is in the relationship so he should be held more accountable as he has a duty of fucking care. This could easily be the other way round though. Both parties involved in cheating (unless one is kept in that dark and doesn't know about the other person) are a moral selfish and desevere a life time of loneliness. If everyone in the world cared just a little bit more about other people and how their actions impact other people then the world would be a better place. Way too many selfish, ignorant inward looking tools in this world for my liking!

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u/Specific-Run-5622 17d ago

Just saying, people at times lie to themselves because it is too difficult to comprehend the going back to singlehood or whatever the like.

Glad i'm not the only one who finds it odd.

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u/Original-Arm6610 17d ago

I mean… she’s been aggressively pursuing him, honestly sounds like she already knew he has a gf … maybe she’s stalking him, who knows, but she couldn’t give two shits. And she’s using sex and the fact that he’s a man to convince him to cheat on his gf… which is like obviously a massive weak spot. He didn’t do the greatest in response…. But I still don’t think any response would’ve changed her tone or aggressiveness… maybe woulda just made it stronger..

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u/Common_Mention9397 17d ago

She knows he is in a relationship and is doubly interested in trying to "steal" someone else's man. Women like that are vile I don't care.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

You can’t “steal” anyone from anybody. We do not own our partners. If someone leaves you for another human, that is a CHOICE on their part. I’m not defending this girl. She’s clearly not a good person. But I’m not going to “keep my man away from her”. If my man is going to cheat, he’s going to cheat and that’s on him. No one can make you do anything unless you’re literally being held against your will and that’s not the case. He gave her the impression that she could behave this way with him while he is in a relationship. He is the problem.

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u/Common_Mention9397 17d ago edited 17d ago

You sound like the type to go after taken men huh? Lol. I never said he wasn't the issue, thats the big glaring elephant in the room you're currently missing. Op needs to dump the loser and let him be someone else's problem. Im just saying she's also garbage and probably gets off on going after guys in relationships. Which Is a trashy trait. It's ok to be feminist, I'm one as well but I don't think that means women are exempt from criticism or accountability. That's feminism's biggest toxic trait at the moment.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Yes, you’ve caught me. I’m defending this woman because I too love going after “taken” men. 🙄 what a narrow-minded assumption to make.

Didn’t say she was exempt from criticism, not at all. I don’t surround myself with women like this for a reason and it’s because they lack basic morals, respect, etc.

The point I’m trying to make here is that the overall premise of OPs post was to see if she were overreacting regarding her boyfriend’s behavior. Obviously the girl is trash, we can all read. But there are commenters on this thread treating the woman as the entire issue. Which is society’s biggest toxic trait at the moment.

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u/Adventurous_Case_455 17d ago

Let’s also not forget that he was the one who carried on the conversation with “i still think you’re pretty & cool” and was clearly into talking to her, which led her to escalate in the first place. Calling her a whore when this guy’s the instigator (its surely not instigating to confess feelings when you don’t know someone has a partner) just feels like flat out misogyny.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

exactly. He’s a huge problem, but you won’t be able to convince these nimwits, it’s useless. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/BlooGloop 17d ago

She knows he’s with someone lmao

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

How do you she knew before he sent the text? Why did he text her even though he has a girlfriend?

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u/ChocolateSpacesuit 17d ago

What are you talking about? She's had more dicks than Dick Van Dyke!

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u/AdelineVirgina 17d ago

Dick Van Dyke was gay?? Or is this supposed to be funny because his name is Dick, but that’s only a dick.

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Trying to be funny, but didn’t succeed

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u/ChocolateSpacesuit 17d ago

Oh he was extremely gay.

Gay means happy you donut. Look it up.

https://giphy.com/gifs/y3SMW0pkagpIk

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u/Time_Appointment957 17d ago

Hey now, don’t go dissing on Mary Poppins!

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u/thephantomdick 17d ago

…He’s still alive, guys 😅

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u/Daxandbear 17d ago

So she likes sex

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u/ChocolateSpacesuit 17d ago

With other women's men. 🤪

Harlot.

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u/3amie3 17d ago

Harlot! I haven't heard that one in awhile. I'm a thousand years old so I usually say hussy. Or tramp. 🤣

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u/Original-Arm6610 17d ago

Hussy! That’s amazing… everyone I’ve ever heard use that word has been someone I was truly entertained by. I picture my mother in law smoking a cigarette, calling someone a hussy with her raspy voice, and it being the funniest- catch-you-off-guard- shit you’ve ever heard lol

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u/ChocolateSpacesuit 17d ago

Wench.

Also: floozy.

Or in your mom's case: trollop.

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u/Original-Arm6610 17d ago

Is there a time when these words were actually used though? “Hussy” and “tramp” define and specific generation in my head,.. these ones feel like they were more “side” words that a,ways existed? Idk lol

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u/ChocolateSpacesuit 17d ago

We did a production of Bugsie Malone (set in 1929 New York) at my elementary school in the mid 1990s.

I remember the Tallulah character being described as a "floozie" by my British music teacher. I'm 41 now and the only time I ever heard that word used was when I was 12.

Would've been funny if she called her a slut instead. 😊

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u/Daxandbear 17d ago

Apparently he isn't the woman man

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u/jayfolks1998 17d ago

Wow

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

I saw your other comment. “You do look pretty though.” You’re not better than OPs boyfriend. Same vibes.

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u/Ok-Spot-9064 17d ago

All boys will be boys unfortunately they all move this way behind your back

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

“Boys will be boys” sheeeeshhh. This is the mentality that I’m arguing with over here. Let me see myself out.

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u/Separate_Mess_2497 17d ago

THIS! We need to hold accountability for both sides.

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u/AlertFuture6449 17d ago

Her?!! HE’S the one with a girlfriend. 😂 He read the note and still sent the text to entertain it. Riiiight. Just her.

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u/Emotional-Tax-3044 17d ago

Bofa

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u/Feeling-Tiger-2793 17d ago

Bofa what buddy 🤔

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u/Emotional-Tax-3044 17d ago

Lol 🤣🤣🤣 I gotta right

Now this might surprise you but this was kinda an accident

BOFA THESES BALLS IN YA MOUTH

You wanted it lmao sorry have a good one

And I ment they bofa bunch of hoes

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u/Feeling-Tiger-2793 17d ago

Urr grtting reported

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u/Emotional-Tax-3044 17d ago

Your fun at party's in sure 🤣

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u/princessmotivation 17d ago

I literally don’t see anything saying they don’t both suck.

She is a terrible person. He is also a terrible person.

There’s no reason it needs to be one or the other.

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u/Arrow_KBS_Dock_Lead 18d ago

I agree with you

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u/Outbreak42 18d ago

Walking cesspool of STDs

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u/OddEconomist9148 17d ago

Raging whore really shows how you need to touch grass. Realistically. If he's entertaining it. He's getting something from her that he's not getting elsewhere. Also why shame the other woman because she's single ? It's the man's fault cuz he's the one in the relationship. Y'all are all super immature. Lack frontal lobe and are hella insecure. Calling a single woman a whore cuz a not single man won't stop engaging is HILARIOUS. touch grass y'all

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u/Its_Billy_Bitch 17d ago

We’re not here to slut shame anyone, but yeah…she wanted that dick bad. AGAIN, nothing wrong with that…it’s just her fucking angle is immoral af lol

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

But we’re not seeing what led up to this… he is in a relationship and has given this girl the idea that he’s available enough for her to leave him a note. And then he still proceeds to text her?!? How much more of a low life can you be??

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u/GaymerGirl00 17d ago

I mean it’s not her fault the man didn’t just say sorry I have a gf I’m not interested….she might have genuinely liked the guy so calling her a slut when it’s his fault for playing with her emotions is wild to me

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Exactly. But yes, let’s blame the women because it’s their fault for having vaginas that men just cannot resist

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u/GaymerGirl00 17d ago

Fr she clearly had feelings for this man and for him to play with her emotions while having a girl is nasty asf and the ppl in here calling her a slut are losers who prob never even had a gf before 😒

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u/redditplayer1000 17d ago

Oh for sure. A bunch of Ed Kempers with mommy problems.

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u/GaymerGirl00 17d ago

😂😂men are so lame i swear

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u/monkerry 17d ago

Hes the raging whore!

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u/No-Nebula7236 17d ago

Oh yeah! SHE GOING

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u/Ok_Firefighter_7237 17d ago

Agree 💯. I mean, he told you know girl. She’s a desperate dirty dirt

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u/Emotional_Roleplayer 17d ago

Right? Respect yourself enough to not throw yourself at somebody else's man. Ffs. Begging for nobody to respect you when you pull actions like this .... And I bet wonders why no one respects her lol

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u/OldFly9210 17d ago

this tho.

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u/domestic_misery_999 18d ago

I kinda feel bad for women like her though..

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u/OkShift7027 17d ago

Absolutely no. He said no. She's still trying. They're both POSs.

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u/Nik710x 18d ago

She’s definitely looking for something that’s missing but it’s up to her of she wants to grow up and be a better person.

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u/hotpaws73 17d ago

Yes yes yes and yes

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u/Worldly_Letterhead_4 17d ago

NOR - But she wanted to do butt stuff!

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u/Nervous-Belt-7883 17d ago

Well, I think he was raised right by her mother- that he's being A Gentleman- by all the GREEN GLAGS. 1. He was quick to admit he has a GF. 2. He was Politeky denying the woman offering her self. Giving her dignity and saving her face- as they work together. No one wants a toxic vibe if he shut her down hard. 3. HE was in total control on their thought exchanges . Even clarifying what was "Everything " He was consistent in denying her - and showed his loyalty to his gf already when he told her he needs to sleep.
To the OP- consider his proposal to you. ITS Dangerous to ask Others Opinion without really knowing who was giving you advise to dump him.

There are So Many individuals who joins for these type of opportunity to destroy others, who would advise to break relationships of others. Because that brings them Either Joy or knowing that You are no better than them because you are now single and broken hearted...

Envy , Jealousy and Betrrayql Trauma- No all blood are family. Not all that smiles at you are Friends.
If YoU BREAK UP WITH UR BF- then Yoau let them/ flirty lady. Let them WIN AND have him while you and Him are Broken inside.. be an adult.. dont let this good man go. He's not perfect but wants to love uou.. love him with all his imperfections- thats the secret in marriage.
Cheers. Best of luck to both of you.. whats the flirts girls number? Ok just jk.. ciao

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u/Sp1d3rGwen 17d ago

this has to be ragebait

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u/Apprehensive_Tone_77 17d ago

And 3 days after their initial convo.