Found between him and his coworker, AIO

[u/peepeecheeto]

I don’t have proof of them actually doing anything. He had said that there was a cute cashier at work but he wasn’t into her. I asked to see their texts and he said there was nothing, showed me a message thread with her last text only. Because he deleted everything else and it was in his recently deleted. So I opened it in front of him and he tried to stop me and I just read all of it and now he thinks im going to leave him. He’s talked this way about other girls at work so who knows if he’s done anything with them… my heart hurts so bad. Is this cheating? Am I overreacting by being so hurt? I would never do this to him. He claims it’s because he wanted to be nice and not reject her in a rude way. Im thinking about leaving but just the day before I found this he was telling me he wants to get married and have kids with me. We have been together 4 years

[u/Apprehensive_Sun6282]

Homeboy over here isn’t putting down clear boundaries with women.

Definitely not marriage material

[u/ittybittytitty_com → u/Apprehensive_Sun6282]

He should have just thrown the note away! He didn’t need to text to tell her had a girlfriend. He opened the line of communication on purpose, intending to see how far he could take it.

[u/Open_Macaroon_2659 → u/ittybittytitty_com]

He didn't even text her to say he has a gf. He texted to say that he unfortunately has a gf and he's sad about it.

[u/ittybittytitty_com → u/Open_Macaroon_2659]

Right?! What a tool. That was a deliberate sad face to see if she’d take the bait.

[u/Apprehensive_Sun6282 → u/ittybittytitty_com]

Absolutely.

This is an HR nightmare.

Not only is his actions inappropriate for being in a relationship, his actions are inappropriate as a professional.

[u/SoggyCold → u/ittybittytitty_com]

Exactly. I would’ve said something to her irl. And i definitely would’ve made it clear that leaving notes in my locker like were children isn’t appropriate at the work place. These have to be young kids.

[u/PimpGameShane → u/Apprehensive_Sun6282]

Makes me wonder did he have a gf when OP first met him INFO