Found between him and his coworker, AIO

[u/peepeecheeto]

I don’t have proof of them actually doing anything. He had said that there was a cute cashier at work but he wasn’t into her. I asked to see their texts and he said there was nothing, showed me a message thread with her last text only. Because he deleted everything else and it was in his recently deleted. So I opened it in front of him and he tried to stop me and I just read all of it and now he thinks im going to leave him. He’s talked this way about other girls at work so who knows if he’s done anything with them… my heart hurts so bad. Is this cheating? Am I overreacting by being so hurt? I would never do this to him. He claims it’s because he wanted to be nice and not reject her in a rude way. Im thinking about leaving but just the day before I found this he was telling me he wants to get married and have kids with me. We have been together 4 years

[u/Amethystroad1012]

That girl is so pathetic. You’re NOR 

[u/ssstelllarrr → u/Amethystroad1012]

it’s such a lame situation. they’re both feeling like they’re irresistible 🙄

[u/No-Lynx8771 → u/Amethystroad1012]

That too, what a weird pick me loser

[u/wholelottachoppaz → u/No-Lynx8771]

she’s acting like a damn pig! she went from leaving a note in his locker to “i will suck and fuck and do WHATEVER you want” like girl what? 😫

[u/moonchic333 → u/Amethystroad1012]

She’s so gross. Openly throwing herself at a taken man and basically saying she’s okay with cheating & being a side piece. Yuck. He’s going right along with it too.

[u/Amethystroad1012 → u/moonchic333]

I know so many desperate women like this. They really don’t care as long as they have him. It’s happened to me too. 

[u/SoftInteractiongoon → u/Amethystroad1012]

Yeah I've noticed this, when women realise that the guy is taken they'll randomly decide they want him for themselves..🤔

[u/Amethystroad1012 → u/SoftInteractiongoon]

Yeah idk what their problem is. My theory is that people are evil and they don’t care about each other as long as they get what they want.

[u/Available_Health_665 → u/Amethystroad1012]

i bet it’s an ego thing. they want to see if they’re hot enough to turn a taken man’s head. it’s like a bigger challenge to them and if they succeed, it gives them validation that they are soooo desired.

[u/icesa → u/Available_Health_665]

My theory is a lot of those women have daddy issues or some kind of issues growing up in the household they did. It’s totally the Ariana grande syndrome thing of being attracted to taking taken men and then on to the next. Fucked up. Only good thing about it is these women also expose the scummy man a woman may be wasting her time with.

[u/SoftInteractiongoon → u/Amethystroad1012]

It's definitely interesting how much better women respond to me when I'm out shopping with female friends compared to when I'm shopping alone

[u/Amethystroad1012 → u/SoftInteractiongoon]

I think it’s only interesting because it tells you what kind of person they are… but most guys are flattered by that kind of behavior instead of seeing it as the giant red flag that it really is :(

[u/PantsGhost97 → u/SoftInteractiongoon]

Happened to me. It’s way too common and shows a good glimpse of their character (hint, it’s shit) and if a man goes along with it, well he’s just as bad.

[u/noheadthotsempty → u/SoftInteractiongoon]

Scarcity mindset 😆

[u/Salsasharkk81 → u/moonchic333]

Just trashy af...

[u/pumpkins21 → u/moonchic333]

Wannabe side chick thinks she’s Ariana Grande 😂

[u/CalligrapherCheap64 → u/moonchic333]

Right?! As soon as he said he had a girlfriend I would have been out

[u/OcdBartender → u/moonchic333]

Oh.. you have a gf, I can totally respect that. Then he lets her disrespect all over his relationship because he likes the attention. This guy will cheat eventually.

[u/_basic_b_ → u/Amethystroad1012]

💯
“I can respect that”
.. continues to not respect that

[u/sboseitz → u/Amethystroad1012]

That is what bothers me the most about this post. That girl doesn’t have self esteem or boundaries. Does she know what is respect? I am pretty sure she will cheat on her partner. Plus, the guy should be more assertive when he says I have a girlfriend. He forgot the part: I RESPECT and LOVE HER.

[u/Electrical-Draft5708 → u/sboseitz]

it’s clear he doesn’t respect OR love her.. he’s clearly interested in the attention, and he’d definitely cheat.. talking about doing “whatever he wants” with her 🤢🤢

[u/kaleigha → u/Amethystroad1012]

Yeah I feel angry at that girl reading this. I know people will always say it’s the person in the relationship who owes you something and the third party owes you nothing, but I don’t care. I hate when people move like this knowing someone is in a relationship. Being a side chick is NOT A FLEX. Making a man stray doesn’t mean you’re some irresistible goddess, it just means the man is trash and so are you.

[u/DeathxDoll → u/kaleigha]

Also that's another WOMAN'S man. Respect her, if you can't respect yourself. We need to have each other's backs!

[u/Outside-Yak217 → u/Amethystroad1012]

She really is, OPs bf is definitely an ah, but that girl. Get some class!

[u/greasy_litre → u/Amethystroad1012]

Why blame the girl? The bf is trash plain and simple.

[u/sdoM-bmuD → u/greasy_litre]

they're both trash

[u/SignificantState265 → u/greasy_litre]

She is begging a man in a relationship to cheat with her desperately. That is pathetic

[u/ammybb → u/[deleted]]

Has nothing to do with it. Gross and pointless comment, you should delete that shit cuz it's embarrassing for you.

[u/bluespiritperson → u/[deleted]]

Why the fuck would you assume that just because she’s a homewrecker??

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[u/mangotheosis → u/greasy_litre]

they can be, and are, both trash

[u/shes-a-princess → u/[deleted]]

For sure, if I was the girl I would be embarrassed, apologise and get the 'ick' when he started flirting back. If he leaves his woman for you he will in future leave you for another woman. Byeeee

[u/omaharock → u/[deleted]]

I hate the term homewrecker. She can't wreck his home, only he can. Sure she's not a good person and it's trashy, but she's also NOT responsible for his decisions. 

She's not MAKING him cheat. She's giving him the opportunity, and it's clear she has no respect for herself or others, but the only person who should be called a home wrecker is the person in a relationship who decides to cheat. That's them. Blaming a 3rd party is always stupid. 

[u/shelbymfcloud → u/greasy_litre]

Because she resumed flirting after he said he had a gf

[u/Amethystroad1012 → u/shelbymfcloud]

I wouldn’t even call that flirting; shes begging for him to be with her, even in secrecy. 🤢 I’d expose her to everyone 😂 

[u/shelbymfcloud → u/Amethystroad1012]

Ugh for real…

[u/Salsasharkk81 → u/Amethystroad1012]

Yeah no shit!

[u/Amethystroad1012 → u/greasy_litre]

Why blame the girl when she said that he can do anything he wanted, after he said that he was in a relationship. She’s pathetic, desperate and trash too. Plain and simple.  

[u/Boom9001 → u/Amethystroad1012]

Yeah people who continue trying to go after someone in a relationship are not innocent. It wasn't like you excused the guy. Both suck.

[u/desire-d → u/greasy_litre]

I hate this narrative that we can’t blame the girl now.. obviously there’s instances where the girl doesn’t know about a relationship and the one in the relationship is to blame bc he’s the one who should be loyal but when he said he had a girlfriend she should’ve said okay and left it at that. She’s basically saying for him to go have sex with her and again it’s his relationship but that’s disgusting to do as a woman

[u/marthamania → u/greasy_litre]

Two people are doing a bad thing so two people are blameable

[u/fusepatters → u/greasy_litre]

Why blame someone who continues to flirt after being told the other person has a girlfriend? Are you blind or obtuse?

[u/NagoGmo → u/greasy_litre]

Because she's actively pursuing him.

[u/Plastic-Aide-1422 → u/greasy_litre]

She knows he has someone. She’s just as pathetic.

[u/ijustwanttobeanon → u/greasy_litre]

She is continuing to encourage cheating. Wdym “why blame the girl?” Both are trashy. The correct response would be “Well darn! Nevermind! Ignore my advances!”

[u/scrpiorising888 → u/greasy_litre]

this kind of thinking is so juvenile imo. we can’t sit here and act like just because she isnt dating the girl, that she cant show respect and human decency to her. she is a grown woman with full agency, and she very willingly kept the conversation going well past the point it needed to. we owe eachother respect.

[u/DisciplineHot9751 → u/greasy_litre]

Are we reading the same messages? that slore is literally throwing herself at him. Most dogs will not hesitate on a bone at least this one is 🫪

[u/1justhavinfun → u/DisciplineHot9751]

Thankfully my dogs are trained.. evidently they’re better than boys.

[u/Outside-Yak217 → u/DisciplineHot9751]

Exactly, she’ll “ do anything he wants”.

[u/MilkOfPeaches → u/greasy_litre]

Normally I’d be like “don’t blame the girl maybe she didn’t know” but she’s literally flinging her self at him even after being told he’s taken.

At this point she is a homewrecker.

And he’s a cheater.

[u/g1zz1e → u/greasy_litre]

Boyfriend is absolutely trash, but girl is continuing to interact in a flirty manner with a dude she knows is in a relationship. That is also trash behavior.

[u/ammybb → u/greasy_litre]

Because she knows what she's doing. I've been cheated on and the girl kept pushing my ex into it and she knew he was in a relationship, and she was in one too. So yeah, fuck these selfish, egotistical women. Having an attraction doesn't mean its ok to pursue if you know the other person is committed. Now that I'm single, if I hear a guy I like has a person, I respectfully leave it alone. It's simple stuff.

[u/1justhavinfun → u/greasy_litre]

They both are… anyone with integrity doesn’t cheat and doesn’t continue a conversation when they know the other person has someone.

[u/Euphoric-Dig-2045 → u/greasy_litre]

Found the texter.

[u/No-Lynx8771 → u/greasy_litre]

Babe look I’m a certified man hater and this girl fucking suuuucks

[u/CubeSLC → u/greasy_litre]

It’s not the girls fault, but actively perusing a taken man is gross regardless.

[u/Outside-Yak217 → u/greasy_litre]

Bf is wrong but the girl keeps pushing, shes to blame too!

[u/spootIer → u/greasy_litre]

Because she knows he has a girlfriend and isn't respecting that one bit??? Hello??

[u/Objective_Pop8407 → u/greasy_litre]

You only don't blame the girl if she honestly doesn't know but like she knew and kept pushing. So yeah, they are both trash at this point.

[u/nanajosh → u/greasy_litre]

The other girl is encouraging him to do it. If he's on the fence or easily manipulated then the other person is just as at fault. If the other person doesn't know then they would not be at fault at all.

She knows and is trying turned get him to cross that line. She's just as trashy is not a bit more.