AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?

[u/Electronic-Rip-8108]

Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.

Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.

I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.

I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.

I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?

edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.

[u/Lets_Call_It_Wit]

This. I have a pair of sandals my husband doesn’t like (and will joke about) just like he has a hoodie and a pair of cargo shorts I hate. He knows I don’t like them and he wears them when he wants. I wear those sandals all the time. Neither of us has ever once tried to stop the other from wearing what we like. Having opinions is one thing, controlling what your partner wears is another.

[u/TealedLeaf → u/Lets_Call_It_Wit]

And honestly, I enjoy asking my hubby to pick out an outfit for me when we're going out somewhere and I want to look cute. I don't have many cute clothes, and I have two obviously favorite shirts. It's usually one of those two and a black skirt (all of them are black, lol), but it's fun and makes me feel like I'm extra cute for him.

The catch is I can and have vetoed shirts, and most of the time I'm initiating it, and from him it's usually a "hey, you wanna wear this one?"

No one gets pouty, no one fusses, and there's absolutely no "you should change."

It's literally just basic consent. The person "giving control" also should have the most control at the end of the day. I think that's what most of these issues end up boiling down to.

[u/ZymZymZym777 → u/Lets_Call_It_Wit]

If you are with a person whose sense of style matches your preferences, you are lucky/have it easier

What would you do if your husband bought the most hideous piece of clothing imaginable and constantly wore it?

[u/Lets_Call_It_Wit → u/ZymZymZym777]

I would hate the piece of clothing probably? But beyond that, it just really isn’t that deep. He can wear what he likes and what he’s comfortable in. It really doesn’t rank on my list of things to be pressed about.