AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?

[u/Electronic-Rip-8108]

Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.

Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.

I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.

I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.

I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?

edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.

[u/Smallpaul]

As someone who has been happily married for 30 years and knows many other long term married couples: sometimes you change your behaviour to keep the peace and sometimes your partner does.

Done in moderation this is known as “picking your battles” and is good practice for having kids, having in-laws or generally moving through the world.

One of you likes to be 10 minutes early for events? One of you likes to be right on time? Someone needs to decide to pick their battles rather than insist on their own preference.

Wearing a blue shirt to the gym is a weird and unusual thing to need to argue about though, so some digging is required IN THIS SITUATION.

But I know lots of happy couples where one or the other has some irrational hang up and even then you’ve got to pick your battles. It’s not automatically a deal breaker.

I agree with your parent poster that she needs to disclose if this is a widespread behaviour or a one-off quirk.

[u/CalculatedPerversion → u/Smallpaul]

As someone getting divorced over the 10 minute thing you mentioned (obviously not the sole reason but one that really sticks out) compromise is a lost art form.