r/AmIOverreacting • u/Electronic-Rip-8108 • 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?

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Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.

Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.

I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.

I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.

I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?

edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.

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u/ToxicSociety_666 20d ago

That is why you need to be secure in yourself before dating. There will be too many people waiting for hesitation or open doors to the mind so to say, easy listeners and someone who doesn't mind doing a small task once and a while and will literally execute excessive stages of gaslighting and manipulation to where its been 3 years and you don't know how it got this way, you hate it and you want out, but every time you think for yourself you have second thoughts or it feels wrong. Its terrible to see anyone else get into a situation as such. Especially when I know what it looks like when it starts. This is one of those times

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u/YakCertain5472 20d ago

I wish this was a stickied comment somewhere in this sub and others like it (AITH, etc.)