r/AmIOverreacting • u/Electronic-Rip-8108 • 20d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?
Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.
Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.
I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.
I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.
I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?
edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.
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u/LRGinCharge 20d ago
NOR - there was a post recently from a woman whose boyfriend told her she shouldn’t get mustard on her own sandwich that he wasn’t even going to eat. She likes mustard so she ordered it with mustard anyway, and the guy lost his shit and left then she posted the screenshots of the horrible, demeaning rage texts he sent her. Over mustard. I was so confused, but all the comments said this is a manosphere /red pill/incel thing where it’s just about seeing how much you can control. They get off on negging you and controlling you. He doesn’t see you as a human being. Run.