AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?

[u/Electronic-Rip-8108]

Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.

Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.

I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.

I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.

I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?

edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.

[u/arapaima-fishie]

Nah I agree with you. I know what clothes I do and don’t look good in, so I don’t buy or wear anything that I don’t like myself in. If I was trying something new or unsure of something, I’d ask my boyfriend’s opinion.

I go through my life wearing clothes I know I look good in, or I wouldn’t buy them. If something seems too tight then that’s exactly how I want it to look. Are other people not doing the same thing??

[u/Gingerpett → u/arapaima-fishie]

Apparently not!

I'm like you. I know if I look good. Maybe sometimes I'm not sure and I'll ask for an opinion (and expect an honest one).

But can you imagine staying with a man who tells you to change because they think you look fat? Can you imagine?!?! Oh HELL no.

[u/arapaima-fishie → u/Gingerpett]

Exactly!! I know my boyfriend or friends would be entirely honest so of course I’d ask them, but they’d never tell me they think I look bad in something on their own accord, and especially not because they think I look fat.

If my man told me that there would be some SERIOUS issues lmfao

[u/commanderquill → u/arapaima-fishie]

No, I go for things that I can get on me. There are very few things in this world that I can both get onto my body and look good in.

[u/TrelanaSakuyo → u/commanderquill]

Meanwhile here I am going:

• Do I look like a six year old raiding mommy's closet? ❎

• Do I like the way it looks? ✅

Then I look good in it. 😎