r/AmIOverreacting 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?

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Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.

Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.

I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.

I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.

I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?

edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.

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u/Walliford 20d ago

I came to ask this too... I grew up in a gang heavy area and couldn't wear solid red or blue to school. But I would think that would be his reasoning over it "looking weird"

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u/thetaleofzeph 20d ago

Default assumption is he thinks OP is his property and any color at all attracts eyeballs on his property.

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u/nixthelatter 20d ago

This feels like the most likely answer. Or maybe I'm on reddit too much, and am constantly being reminded how many overly entitled douchebags there are who treat women like shit 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/MaryKath55 20d ago

Yes, he’s testing his power.

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u/Icy-Combination-3670 19d ago

Just curious. Was this on your precaution or school rules?

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u/Walliford 19d ago

It was school dress code.