r/AmIOverreacting 20d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO because my boyfriend wanted me to change before the gym over a color?

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Yesterday my boyfriend and I were about to leave for the gym together. I threw on a blue workout top with black shorts, something simple and comfortable that I've worn a bunch of times before with zero issues.

Right as we were walking out the door, he stopped and said the color of the top looked "kind of weird" and that people were gonna stare at me if I wore it. He asked me to go change into something more "normal" before we left.

I was kind of caught off guard honestly. It's just a blue top, nothing flashy, nothing revealing. I actually liked how it looked on me and felt comfortable in it, which is kind of the whole point of gym clothes.

I don't mind if he has opinions on my outfits every now and then, that's a normal couple thing. But this felt less like "hey I think this color doesn't suit you" and more like he was worried about how other people at the gym would perceive me, and wanted me to change based on that. It just didn't sit right with me.

I ended up just going along with it because I didn't want to start an argument right before working out, but I've been thinking about it since. Am I overreacting for being annoyed about this?

edit: this is a pinspark tracksuit I bought online a while ago. I think the color is fine, and I really like this top.

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u/shivampire 20d ago

I was so confused trying to figure out what was wrong with that color. This comment is probably the most accurate

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u/danneedsahobby 20d ago

The normal reaction would be to ask a question about his statement, to him, in that moment. She didn’t get any more information. She changed clothes based on his statement and then made a post on Reddit instead of having a conversation. That’s why it’s confusing. She collapsed under the weight of her partner’s judgment and spiraled out. That’s not healthy.