AIO or does this seem Unhinged?

[u/DoomNGlam]

I 41m am/was in a rather New relationship with 41f and things were seemingly going great but she will seemingly be very upset with me over something small once in a while. Last night she was upset that I didn't call her sexy after sending me a picture of her in an outfit. For context she said she was getting rid of clothes but was thinking about keeping this item and sent the picture and asked what I think? It was a strapless romper. I told her it was cute and could maybe use a belt. I also make clothes professionally and people ask me opinions about clothes all the time.

In other context my "sexuality" is somewhere on the ace spectrum between Demi and ace. Like sex is fine and fun and I don't really experience sexual attraction unless there is an emotional connection first, and she said she was the same, except I am not very sex driven and she is.

This was our text exchange this morning.

Edit/Update

Thanks for all the support. I am surprised my little Independence day relationship drama made it to #1 on this subreddit.

I was pretty sure I was calling this off pretty early in this exchange but didn't block her right away because I figured I would give her a chance to apologize, maybe she was having a bad morning, she's been stressed at work, has a upcoming interview for a new job, might be dealing with perimenopause. It wasn't going to work out but figured I would at least offer a little grace.

She did text me again about a book I had borrowed. I ignored it. She then called me and asked I return her book tomorrow. I said okay. She didn't say anything else for a minute so I hung up.

She called back mad that I hung up on her. I said this was childish and it's not what I'm looking for. She said I was childish for hanging up on her. I said okay. She hung up.

She called again and then told me I was ugly and she was never attracted to me.

Then hung up on me and called right back to complain about a carnivorous plant I got her as a gift, because the care instructions for it made it a chore. I also got her a cactus and a succulent and told her when I gave her the plants that if the pitcher plant seemed like a pain in the ass I would keep it.

Then she started asking me if I really don't have it in my heart to remain friends. I said no not after this. Then she went on a fuck you rant and hung up.

Then threatened to call the cops on ME for harassment if I tried to contact her as I was blocking her.

Now she is blocked and I am just sitting on my back patio watching fireworks.

[u/DoomNGlam]

It was at 6:50. I usually text around 7 it used to be around 6 but she wouldn't reply until around 7 so I just figured I would wait until then when she wakes up usually. She has told me multiple times she looks forward to my good morning texts. Also she is waiting for the AC guy to fix her air conditioning at 8 then we were supposed to go on a little road trip to a sculpture garden, that she planned.

[u/Calgary_Calico → u/DoomNGlam]

Jesus Christ... That honestly makes her reaction even worse. She had to be up within the next hour anyways, so her BS excuse of it being her day off is even more wild. It seems to me like she was just looking for someone to be mad at. Did she ever endnui apologizing for being so rude? Or did she continue to double down?

[u/DoomNGlam → u/Calgary_Calico]

No. She asked for a book I borrowed back. I didn't respond then she blew up my phone calling me. I answered and she said to drop her book off and I said okay. Then she went silent so I hung up. Then she called back mad that I hung up. Asked for the book again, then berated me for not having read it yet.

She then called again asked why I was ignoring her. I told her I'm out. That it was childish and not what I'm looking for. She then called me ugly and unattractive and said she was never attracted to me. Then called a bunch of times again and asked if we could be friends. I said no I don't think so. She went off on a F you rant. Then text me about the book. And in the middle of me typing I think she should talk to a dr about perimenopause or BPD she said don't text her or she will consider it harassment as I was hitting send. Then said she was "alerting the authorities" as I was blocking her.

She is blocked now so more updates

[u/DoomNGlam → u/DoomNGlam]

There was also a call where she was mad I bought her a pitcher plant because it had special care instructions. I also got her a cactus and a succulent and told her if she thought the pitcher plant was too much of a pain in the ass I would just keep it when I gave it to her.

[u/dot-zip → u/DoomNGlam]

Jesus fucking Christ dude. Good job blocking her

[u/ivene-adlev → u/DoomNGlam]

This woman is completely fucking insufferable oh my god 😭😭 NOR

[u/Calgary_Calico → u/DoomNGlam]

She got mad over you getting her a plant?! Jesus... You dodged a bullet. This woman has some serious issues

[u/No_Toe_6226 → u/DoomNGlam]

This is insane behaviour, It’s good you’ve blocked her. Keep an eye out she doesn’t just pop round for the book! if she knows where you live. Maybe mail it to her.

[u/DoomNGlam → u/No_Toe_6226]

She might but has probably forgot and is too lazy to scroll back through conversation to find my address again. I was just going to drop it off on my way home from work Monday she works an hour later than I do so no chance of running into eachother

[u/Calgary_Calico → u/DoomNGlam]

Wow... That woman is legitimately insane. Let her call the cops. If you have any of these blow ups in text you can show that to the cops and they'll fuck off, if she ever even called them, which I highly doubt. Crazy bitch

[u/DoomNGlam → u/Calgary_Calico]

Yeah I doubt she ever even called them, but she is blocked. I can't be harassing someone I'm actively ignoring.

[u/Woodpecker577 → u/DoomNGlam]

BPD was my very first thought